I think you've been very reasonable about this, but since I posted the link, I will make a few comments about his situation as apposed to YAITW and others.
Not that it ever justifies laying hands on a woman, but I do see a difference between things that happen between two people in a relationship and the sort of predatory and at times violent behavior we've seen in these other instances.
Wrest claimed his innocence the entire time. Out of the 38 or so charges, only four were brought and the only charge he was convicted of was surprising to some since apparently witnesses for both defense and prosecution stated that there were no marks to suggest that he choked her.
As far as True Traitor, True Whore, if I just went through that experience, I could see that as being a legit way to express what I was feeling in the language of black metal.
Nice to see a civil discussion about these issues in at least one thread on this board.
Anywhooo, back to music!