Oblivions Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 6 hours ago, nancy_raygun said: To me it just sounds like you like the drama. Or you like being the "mature" one since you're older. Or maybe she's really hot and gives it up easy. Because if what you're saying is true, a rational person would have bailed a long while back. So I'm wary of your motives here, Gumbo. Because most dudes in their late 20s/early 30s wouldn't string along an "immature" "bipolar" younger woman struggling through college. That's kind of fucked up. But, hey, maybe you're just blowing off steam. Or maybe you're making it all up to boost that post count. Stay with someone because you love them and want to make it work but don't stay with someone out of pity. That's neither helpful for you or them. I wish you clarity and chillness in this situation. abovetheearth, Tommy and chkadea 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 1 hour ago, Gumbo72203 said: lol i wish I was making it up. I mean.... I think you might have something with the mature card. Being able to be the grounded one, trying to be someone's stablizing force.... I think that's not a bad read. I just feel bad leaving now because that's what my long-term girlfriend did years ago when I had the same situation go on. I wouldn't say I'm stringing her along... I care about her, and want this to work, because it should. Maybe I'm experiencing that phenomena where you like the idea of someone, but not the actual someone. Because she checks off all the boxes with things I want... I mean, she has a damn Belphegor shirt, she's seen Morbid Angel, we met at a Dark Tranquility show, she likes GIAA.... There are other girls who like metal. There are other girls who aren't into metal. Some compatibility with music/movies/books/podcasts?/memes? is important, but not as important as some people seem to think. My girlfriend and I can chill and listen to Metal Machine Music or Merzbow. But if I put on like Converge or These Arms are Snakes she rolls her eyes and makes the jerk off motion. She'll still go to shows and get in the pit with me, because it's what I'm into. But the strength of a relationship has nothing to do with liking the same bands. Honestly, it's more important that you hate a lot of the same bands. I've dated a lot of people who liked bands I thought were garbage...but I know I could never be in a relationship with someone who didn't hate Phish. Who I am as a person would not be compatible with someone into that kinda thing. Maybe when she says she doesn't want to be with you she's just lashing out. Maybe it's how she really feels bubbling to the surface. Either way, it doesn't sound healthy for either of you. nancy_raygun, chkadea and abovetheearth 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chkadea Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 59 minutes ago, Bladewillisisdead said: There are other girls who like metal. There are other girls who aren't into metal. Some compatibility with music/movies/books/podcasts?/memes? is important, but not as important as some people seem to think. My girlfriend and I can chill and listen to Metal Machine Music or Merzbow. But if I put on like Converge or These Arms are Snakes she rolls her eyes and makes the jerk off motion. She'll still go to shows and get in the pit with me, because it's what I'm into. But the strength of a relationship has nothing to do with liking the same bands. Honestly, it's more important that you hate a lot of the same bands. I've dated a lot of people who liked bands I thought were garbage...but I know I could never be in a relationship with someone who didn't hate Phish. Who I am as a person would not be compatible with someone into that kinda thing. Maybe when she says she doesn't want to be with you she's just lashing out. Maybe it's how she really feels bubbling to the surface. Either way, it doesn't sound healthy for either of you. As usual, pure unadulterated gold. Take heed, @Gumbo72203 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 10 hours ago, GOTCHA said: I enjoy reading your drama because my marriage is so enjoyable and normal. Please stay in this relationship and keep posting. You deserve each other. This post suggests that you are a very happy individual in a healthy relationship with zero insecurities. I completely believe that you are not secretly miserable. Gumbo72203, nancy_raygun, Shelby and 5 others 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GOTCHA Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 (edited) 2 hours ago, Derek™ said: This post suggests that you are a very happy individual in a healthy relationship with zero insecurities. I completely believe that you are not secretly miserable. While I appreciate your presumptuous post, you are incorrect. Most of what I read in here is total shit show material, and I enjoy it. It's sad and hilarious, all wrapped up into one thread. Who needs soap operas when you have a VC relationship thread? The only thing missing is Thomas rolling in here with his hypochondria while having a relationship issue. I pine for that day. Good luck with your long distance relationship, I'm sure it will work out just fine since you're such a stand up chap. Please, post some more so you can try to push for an argument over the internet, which is clearly what you were aiming for with your last punchy post. Edited March 25, 2017 by GOTCHA you are Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 5 minutes ago, GOTCHA said: While I appreciate your presumptuous post, you are incorrect. Most of what I read in here is total shit show material, and I enjoy it. It's sad and hilarious, all wrapped up into one thread. Who needs soap operas when you have a VC relationship thread? The only thing missing is Thomas rolling in here with his hypochondria while having a relationship issue. I pine for that day. Good luck with your long distance relationship, I'm sure it will work out just fine since you're such a stand up chap. Please, post some more so you can try to push for an argument over the internet, which is clearly what you were aiming for with your last punchy post. I'm actually kid of surprised you follow this thread so closely. I get that you're really wrapped up in the lives of strangers on the internet, but please go back to managing your eBay listings and talking shit about your neighbor's wife so you can get your clock cleaned the fuck out. As a firm advocate of karma, I legitimately cannot wait for you to get what's coming to you. THE_James_Champ 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 Also a friendly reminder that this is the Man Advice thread. For men who give advice. Not spineless spergmeisters who insult a man's family and then proceed to duck their head in passing or hide in the shadows at local shows. Absolutely pathetic. THE_James_Champ and daegor 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 Do you slow down when you're driving by a car accident and yell "I AM INTERESTED BY YOUR SUFFERING AND MISFORTUNE"? Get your schadenfreude and move on, dude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thomas³ Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 44 minutes ago, GOTCHA said: The only thing missing is Thomas rolling in here with his hypochondria while having a relationship issue. I pine for that day. One day, one day.... THE_James_Champ and Tommy 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 30 minutes ago, Bladewillisisdead said: Do you slow down when you're driving by a car accident and yell "I AM INTERESTED BY YOUR SUFFERING AND MISFORTUNE"? I actually thought of this same exact scenario for him, but with roadkill. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GOTCHA Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 1 hour ago, Derek™ said: I'm actually kid of surprised you follow this thread so closely. I get that you're really wrapped up in the lives of strangers on the internet, but please go back to managing your eBay listings and talking shit about your neighbor's wife so you can get your clock cleaned the fuck out. As a firm advocate of karma, I legitimately cannot wait for you to get what's coming to you. I don't follow closely, just a skim through to enjoy the drama of people who post so openly about personal shit on the internet. It's fantastic. I do find it hilarious that you can't find someone local to date and have to drive and hour and a half to be in a "relationship". Speaks volumes of what women think of you locally. Hilarious how charged up you dorks have gotten over my comments. Especially Derek. I enjoy when Derek gets extra charged up, throws karma is coming at you type statements, and can't move on with his day without responding.....multiple times. Totally rules. Also, thanks for checking out my EBay listings and keeping an eye on them. Shocked you follow them so closely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 That's very astute of you – I think I made one post in this entire thread mentioning the fact I live an hour and a half away from the girl I'm dating. I'm not sure if I should be impressed or appalled by your dedication to personal detail. Since you enjoy logging VC lives in your journal at home, you can probably refer to your prior scoop on me and discover that I live in the middle of fuck-all nowhere, Northern California. (Refer to the time you threatened to make a detour from your Cali vacation to pay me a visit and beat me to a pulp, or whatever equally cringe shit you posted on one of your various old accounts.) Not that you genuinely care, but I don't date local because the whole "farmer girl" thing isn't for me, personally. You're going to have to try a lot harder to live up to that username to GET ME. Since you keep returning to this thread, can you at least give some actual advice? Like how you managed to trick another human being into tying the knot with a bitter, inept degenerate like yourself? I bet that's a story worth reading. My full sympathies to your wife and the horse shit she has to deal with on a daily basis. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oblivions Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 Finding other people's experiences interesting or sharing your experiences with a pretty universal subject are not things to be ashamed about. No real need to defend it or pay much attention to someone who is trying to get a reaction by mocking it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GOTCHA Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 6 minutes ago, Derek™ said: That's very astute of you – I think I made one post in this entire thread mentioning the fact I live an hour and a half away from the girl I'm dating. I'm not sure if I should be impressed or appalled by your dedication to personal detail. Since you enjoy logging VC lives in your journal at home, you can probably refer to your prior scoop on me and discover that I live in the middle of fuck-all nowhere, Northern California. (Refer to the time you threatened to make a detour from your Cali vacation to pay me a visit and beat me to a pulp, or whatever equally cringe shit you posted on one of your various old accounts.) Not that you genuinely care, but I don't date local because the whole "farmer girl" thing isn't for me, personally. You're going to have to try a lot harder to live up to that username to GET ME. Since you keep returning to this thread, can you at least give some actual advice? Like how you managed to trick another human being into tying the knot with a bitter, inept degenerate like yourself? I bet that's a story worth reading. My full sympathies to your wife and the horse shit she has to deal with on a daily basis. You so mad, bro. I'm actually in CA right now. You should drive down and we'll hang out. Sound good? I'll stop responding. It's the internet, you let this really get to you. It's funny. You're actually explaining yourself to me, like I care? I see you're super fired up and passionate and won't stop until you feel like you've got the last word. I'll let you have it. You win, Derek. You win. Now get in the car and make the drive to see that gal pal instead of wasting time on a Saturday responding to posts on the internets, dummy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 6 minutes ago, GOTCHA said: You so mad, bro. I'm actually in CA right now. You should drive down and we'll hang out. Sound good? I'll stop responding. It's the internet, you let this really get to you. It's funny. You're actually explaining yourself to me, like I care? I see you're super fired up and passionate and won't stop until you feel like you've got the last word. I'll let you have it. You win, Derek. You win. Now get in the car and make the drive to see that gal pal instead of wasting time on a Saturday responding to posts on the internets, dummy. GIVE ME YOUR FUCKING ADDRESS RIGHT NOW BRO LET'S DO THIS I DON'T GIVE A FUCK JUST PICK A TIME AND A PLACE YOU PIECE OF SHIT I WILL EQUALIZE YOU. But really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GOTCHA Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 11 minutes ago, Derek™ said: GIVE ME YOUR FUCKING ADDRESS RIGHT NOW BRO LET'S DO THIS I DON'T GIVE A FUCK JUST PICK A TIME AND A PLACE YOU PIECE OF SHIT I WILL EQUALIZE YOU. But really. Ahhhh typical Derek. Always ending some no backbone statement with a meme. Hit me up with a PM if you wanna roll down for a beer. Otherwise, seriously, go take out some of your angst by making the drive and throw a pounding to your gal pal. Unless....she doesn't exist and is just deflated under your bed waiting for an inflating. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 2 hours ago, GOTCHA said: I'll stop responding. you've got the last word. I'll let you have it. You win, Derek. You win. GOTCHA and THE_James_Champ 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GOTCHA Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 I see why you make the drive, Derek. You and your lady look really good together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted March 25, 2017 Share Posted March 25, 2017 Bruh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted March 26, 2017 Share Posted March 26, 2017 GOTCHA logic – drive an hour and a half to spend time with an inanimate object outside your own home. Imagine being this dense and trying to get through life on a day-to-day basis. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cantdance Posted March 26, 2017 Share Posted March 26, 2017 But seriously gotcha dude can we hear about your sweet wife and your sweet life? Show all these sad souls how it's done? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gumbo72203 Posted March 26, 2017 Share Posted March 26, 2017 Well that escalated quickly. People are so funny sometimes. As far as my situation, haven't talked much since Friday night... I need time to figure out what I feel/want to do. It sucks, because I really wanted this to work. She fits. But... perhaps we don't line up so much as I thought. Pretty sure the "i don't want a relationship" stuff is just her lashing out, trying to instigate.... she's repeatedly told me all the dudes she's been with have been shitty, so I think she's used to having to throw up defenses and fight and make it difficult. I don't engage that nonsense haha. So, I don't know. I'm very displeased that she was lying to me. That might be the deal-breaker. I'm far from perfect, and have gone through similar struggles, so I can relate and empathize and that's why I don't judge her for that. But to lie about it, and not admit that you've struggling... I don't know. I get it, because it sucks and you're struggling and so you don't do things logically. So how do you become mad at someone for that? Is that really fair? I'm not so sure, because I know that when I was struggling in school I WISH i had the strength to reach out and ask for help, but I didn't, because I was scared shitless and couldn't face it. But I think maybe I can't put my future on the line to be the savior for someone else.... a person can't fix someone else. Only you can fix yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tommy Posted March 27, 2017 Share Posted March 27, 2017 4 hours ago, Gumbo72203 said: But I think maybe I can't put my future on the line to be the savior for someone else.... a person can't fix someone else. Only you can fix yourself. I think this is the answer Gumbs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kgry Posted March 27, 2017 Share Posted March 27, 2017 Color me intrigued. Did Derek and Gotcha meet up? I think there's an albums worth of lyrics here on page 111. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marc32137 Posted March 27, 2017 Share Posted March 27, 2017 So the date with this new girl went really well yesterday. Went to a record fair and had lunch, plus we talked for hours. Very happy with how things are going. Tommy, nancy_raygun, Stress On The Sky and 2 others 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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