Bladewillisisdead Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 An important thing to remember in a breakup is that your selfworth is not based on someone else. Shits tough and it sounds obvious but sometimes you just have to remind yourself that you are important. futures 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stillused Posted July 20, 2014 Share Posted July 20, 2014 You guys give great advice. I'm really going through a tough time right now so any sort of advice is good, welcomed news. Thanks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kenxedge Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I laugh about the brown button up whenever I read this thread, sometimes I even go back and re-read the story just for a good laugh. NoFatChicks 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I wish I knew what happened to that shirt. I probably should have framed it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-tess. Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 You guys give great advice. I'm really going through a tough time right now so any sort of advice is good, welcomed news. Thanks Hey. Know you're great. Do something that makes you happy today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cambionic Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Seven years and we're breaking up. I still love her so much, but her love for me has waned over the years. We've lived together for five of those years, never fought, had a fiery passion for each other, and went through so much together. We were always considered the "model couple" by our friends and family and I always saw her as my future wife and mother of my children. We have so many memories together, had made so many plans together. And now it's nearing the end. We are currently on "a break" for "space" that was supposed to last a month (which I always assumed was just a drawn out way to break up). Right now I'm crashing at my buddies' bachelor pad on the couch for the time being. She contacted me two days ago - about two weeks into the "break" - to meet up with her tomorrow "to talk". I know what that means. The last two days I've been kind of in a shocked daze, not fully accepting it. But now that our planned meeting is less than 12 hours away, it's beginning to set in. It's so fucking difficult, realizing that she's no longer going to be a part of my life. The minor details are starting to sink in - the cathartic experience of moving out, separating "our" stuff into "her" stuff and "my" stuff, the mutual friends, the countless memoirs of her hidden in everything I do, the process of everyone finding out that our "perfect" relationship has ended (and the countless questions of why, which I don't have answers to), the debilitating heartbreak that takes the rest of your life to get over. I've been listening to a lot of Beatles tunes, certain ones really speaking to me: I'm So Tired I Will Something For No One Yer Blues Let it Be She's going to ruin The Beatles for me. :/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Out of Breath Records Posted June 15, 2015 Author Share Posted June 15, 2015 fight more Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 That's fucking brutal man and my heart goes out to you. However, in the last seven years dating has gotten wild. So there's that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Seven years and we're breaking up. I still love her so much, but her love for me has waned over the years. We've lived together for five of those years, never fought, had a fiery passion for each other, and went through so much together. We were always considered the "model couple" by our friends and family and I always saw her as my future wife and mother of my children. We have so many memories together, had made so many plans together. And now it's nearing the end. We are currently on "a break" for "space" that was supposed to last a month (which I always assumed was just a drawn out way to break up). Right now I'm crashing at my buddies' bachelor pad on the couch for the time being. She contacted me two days ago - about two weeks into the "break" - to meet up with her tomorrow "to talk". I know what that means. The last two days I've been kind of in a shocked daze, not fully accepting it. But now that our planned meeting is less than 12 hours away, it's beginning to set in. It's so fucking difficult, realizing that she's no longer going to be a part of my life. The minor details are starting to sink in - the cathartic experience of moving out, separating "our" stuff into "her" stuff and "my" stuff, the mutual friends, the countless memoirs of her hidden in everything I do, the process of everyone finding out that our "perfect" relationship has ended (and the countless questions of why, which I don't have answers to), the debilitating heartbreak that takes the rest of your life to get over. I've been listening to a lot of Beatles tunes, certain ones really speaking to me: I'm So Tired I Will Something For No One Yer Blues Let it Be She's going to ruin The Beatles for me. :/ I've been there and it sucks. It sucks a lot, and for that I'm so terribly sorry for you. I know it sounds cliche, and you're gonna hear it over and over again, but it does get better. Actually, it can get a lot better and everything you thought was perfect can actually get better and more rewarding. Again, I know it sounds cheesy, but keep your head up man, you'll get through it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eliminator Jr. Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 However, in the last seven years dating has gotten wild. So there's that. Really? Does it ever change? I stopped dating when I was 16 and got my heart broken. That's when it started to be almost too easy. Happily out of the game now since three years. So.. Wild how? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hippielauryn Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Seven years and we're breaking up. I still love her so much, but her love for me has waned over the years. We've lived together for five of those years, never fought, had a fiery passion for each other, and went through so much together. We were always considered the "model couple" by our friends and family and I always saw her as my future wife and mother of my children. We have so many memories together, had made so many plans together. And now it's nearing the end. We are currently on "a break" for "space" that was supposed to last a month (which I always assumed was just a drawn out way to break up). Right now I'm crashing at my buddies' bachelor pad on the couch for the time being. She contacted me two days ago - about two weeks into the "break" - to meet up with her tomorrow "to talk". I know what that means. The last two days I've been kind of in a shocked daze, not fully accepting it. But now that our planned meeting is less than 12 hours away, it's beginning to set in. It's so fucking difficult, realizing that she's no longer going to be a part of my life. The minor details are starting to sink in - the cathartic experience of moving out, separating "our" stuff into "her" stuff and "my" stuff, the mutual friends, the countless memoirs of her hidden in everything I do, the process of everyone finding out that our "perfect" relationship has ended (and the countless questions of why, which I don't have answers to), the debilitating heartbreak that takes the rest of your life to get over. I've been listening to a lot of Beatles tunes, certain ones really speaking to me: I'm So Tired I Will Something For No One Yer Blues Let it Be She's going to ruin The Beatles for me. :/ The seven year itch.... some people just don't make it. I'm so sorry though. Seven years is a really long time to devote yourself and your life to someone. I can't even imagine the pain and difficulty you're going through right now. I hope you are able to do some soul searching and find what makes you happy without her in your life. Enjoy what you have as much as you can, and think about all the adventures ahead of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Really? Does it ever change? I stopped dating when I was 16 and got my heart broken. That's when it started to be almost too easy. Happily out of the game now since three years. So.. Wild how? Online dating no longer carries a stigma and apps like tinder are the new normal. Makes meeting people way easier and if you're into hookups then you're in luck. albert 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Also wait...you stopped dating at 16 and now you're 19? That hardly even counts. Once you're 21 shit gets way more real. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eliminator Jr. Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Also wait...you stopped dating at 16 and now you're 19? That hardly even counts. Once you're 21 shit gets way more real. Dude I'm 26. When I said I stopped dating it was meant as 'I stopped caring'. That's when things got a lot easier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sad Heart Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Also wait...you stopped dating at 16 and now you're 19? That hardly even counts. Once you're 21 shit gets way more real. I don't think you can even really experience heartbreak when you're sixteen, since you aren't really capable of really, truly loving someone yet. Hell, you aren't even who you are really going to be at 16. Once that kid really falls in love, and then experiences heartbreak, that 16yr old incident will feel like a minor inconvenience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Dude I'm 26. When I said I stopped dating it was meant as 'I stopped caring'. That's when things got a lot easier. Ah, well you said 16 and then 3 years and that's math I'm capable of doing. My bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 I don't think you can even really experience heartbreak when you're sixteen, since you aren't really capable of really, truly loving someone yet. Hell, you aren't even who you are really going to be at 16. Once that kid really falls in love, and then experiences heartbreak, that 16yr old incident will feel like a minor inconvenience. When you're 16 that shit feels like THE MOST IMPORTANT AND INTENSE THING IN THE WORLD But yeah, then a few years later it should feel like nothing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eliminator Jr. Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 When you're 16 that shit feels like THE MOST IMPORTANT AND INTENSE THING IN THE WORLD But yeah, then a few years later it should feel like nothing. Exactly. At 16 this shit feels like the end of the world, period. You get over this shit a lot faster than when you're in your late 20's, but damn it's intense. Ten years later I know for a fact that I was a kid who really fell for that self-loathing game. And yeah, what Dave says: Now it seems like a minor inconvenience. But damn if it didn't mean the world to me then. Also Dave: How's your leg? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dominic_ Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 When you're 16 that shit feels like THE MOST IMPORTANT AND INTENSE THING IN THE WORLD But yeah, then a few years later it should feel like nothing. Yeah, this is why I actively avoid the teen dating thing. It will never go anywhere, and usually just ends in headache. Plus I don't want to have to use my record money on some girl. Who is she to think she is that important. Jokes aside, I see no point in getting in on the teen high school dating thing. It's much more fun to sit back and watch other people make the stupid decisions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eliminator Jr. Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Yeah, this is why I actively avoid the teen dating thing. It will never go anywhere, and usually just ends in headache. Plus I don't want to have to use my record money on some girl. Who is she to think she is that important. Jokes aside, I see no point in getting in on the teen high school dating thing. It's much more fun to sit back and watch other people make the stupid decisions. I know teen drama is stupid, but I don't regret a thing. Now I know that love at 16 wasn't real, but it FELT real. It really helped me grow and see what is going to be important to me when I eventually start looking out for the one. Of course it's a lot of 'Look back and laugh' now, but I wouldn't wanna have missed any of it. Like this one time at 15 when I asked a girl out to a concert I won tickets to, and I really dug her. Next day she thanked me for the free ticket and told me to not come near her ever again. I cried for days on end. Today, when I tell that story to the one, it makes me feel thankful for all that bullshit that lead me right to where I am now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dominic_ Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 I know teen drama is stupid, but I don't regret a thing. Now I know that love at 16 wasn't real, but it FELT real. It really helped me grow and see what is going to be important to me when I eventually start looking out for the one. Of course it's a lot of 'Look back and laugh' now, but I wouldn't wanna have missed any of it. Like this one time at 15 when I asked a girl out to a concert I won tickets to, and I really dug her. Next day she thanked me for the free ticket and told me to not come near her ever again. I cried for days on end. Today, when I tell that story to the one, it makes me feel thankful for all that bullshit that lead me right to where I am now. Not saying what you did was wrong, just saying that's not my thing. I'm generally kind of antisocial. I have a group of friends that I'm pretty close with, but otherwise I'm not a "let's just go randomly to XXXX event and see who I meet" kind of person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+hecollec+or Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Next day she thanked me for the free ticket and told me to not come near her ever again. I cried for days on end. Jesus.... thats fucking harsh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eliminator Jr. Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Not saying what you did was wrong, just saying that's not my thing. I'm generally kind of antisocial. I have a group of friends that I'm pretty close with, but otherwise I'm not a "let's just go randomly to XXXX event and see who I meet" kind of person. Yeah, that was not supposed to come off as lecturing or something like that. I was just trying to express how I feel about teenage years now, looking back. I bet everyone does something stupid during those years, the only thing that matters is that you take something out of it that helps you being happy as a grown ass sappy adult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 Yeah, this is why I actively avoid the teen dating thing. It will never go anywhere, and usually just ends in headache. Plus I don't want to have to use my record money on some girl. Who is she to think she is that important. Jokes aside, I see no point in getting in on the teen high school dating thing. It's much more fun to sit back and watch other people make the stupid decisions. I regret not dating and making stupid decisions as a teenager. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hxcoliver Posted June 16, 2015 Share Posted June 16, 2015 Wow, just read through this entire thread. Some funny shit, and other serious shit, but thank you all for the stories. Especially that Jurassic Park one Bruce. Hahaha some seriously funny shit, JP is too damn important to be distracted from it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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