Shelby Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 4 hours ago, Gumbo72203 said: Because chicks don't want to date some wiener dude who is so emotionally unstable and needy. Challenge accepted Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelby Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 Lol Nah I'm stable but I took offense to your wiener dude comment. Plenty of girls want a wiener dude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deafening Posted February 9, 2017 Share Posted February 9, 2017 32 minutes ago, Shlebs said: Plenty of girls want a wiener, dude. Fungi, THE_James_Champ, tarzioo_ and 4 others 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 6 hours ago, nancy_raygun said: Just because I feel differently, I'll say, doing stuff is lame. My wife and I are codependent losers who never leave the house, except to go to work. We come home every night, get drunk, listen to punk records, smoke cigarettes, then get high and play old video games or watch TV. It's the best and I highly suggest it. Outside and meeting people/having friends is way overrated when you can just be emotionally dependent on an angry feminist who knows how to mix cocktails. Pretty much this is what's up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 So I appreciate all of this advice, but what do I do right now? I'm not necessarily trying to attract anyone (yet) and I'm not trying to win my ex back. She didn't say a word when I told her i was sad about some of the stuff going on in our relationship and didn't try to fix it and next thing you know I was leaving and then it just ended. I had been the happiest in our relationship (1 year of 4-5 days a week spending together / sleepovers) as ever, but one small thing she did really bummed me out so I confronted her. And instead of trying to fix things she just sat there and practically scoffed at the idea of doing something for me (to make me less sad). She didn't even say sorry. I feel betrayed, confused, lost, alone... it doesn't stop. And even though I don't think I want to get back together with her, I haven't found solace in this separation. I'm constantly on my phone as if it's going to vibrate and I'm going to feel better. I had a snow day today (and didn't sled cause it was realllly bad out) and I couldn't find the strength or excitement to do something for myself. I just moped and thought about sad shit and stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 (edited) idk why it posted twice Edited February 10, 2017 by Team Avatar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oblivions Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 (edited) 1 hour ago, Team Avatar said: So I appreciate all of this advice, but what do I do right now? I'm not necessarily trying to attract anyone (yet) and I'm not trying to win my ex back. She didn't say a word when I told her i was sad about some of the stuff going on in our relationship and didn't try to fix it and next thing you know I was leaving and then it just ended. I had been the happiest in our relationship (1 year of 4-5 days a week spending together / sleepovers) as ever, but one small thing she did really bummed me out so I confronted her. And instead of trying to fix things she just sat there and practically scoffed at the idea of doing something for me (to make me less sad). She didn't even say sorry. I feel betrayed, confused, lost, alone... it doesn't stop. And even though I don't think I want to get back together with her, I haven't found solace in this separation. I'm constantly on my phone as if it's going to vibrate and I'm going to feel better. I had a snow day today (and didn't sled cause it was realllly bad out) and I couldn't find the strength or excitement to do something for myself. I just moped and thought about sad shit and stuff. You're describing some pretty relatable and normal feelings. If you have health insurance and aren't already in therapy, I would suggest looking into seeing a therapist. It helps to have a structured time and place to talk about stuff like this with someone who is trained to listen and support. Your depressed and bummed feelings are going to come out, whether you express them verbally or just carry it in your bones, and you'll want to let it out with your therapist rather than your next date. If you are already in therapy, maybe shift your discussions towards this stuff more and make it a point to talk out what you have been feeling/thinking; see if those thoughts/feelings still hold the same power over you after you've spoken them out loud with another person. If you find yourself especially down, it can help to view yourself as if you were another person and show some compassion towards yourself the way you'd show compassion toward a friend who was down. Let yourself be bummed, acknowledge that it's OK to be bummed, and do something nice for yourself while feeling bummed. Go for a walk, put on your favorite band shirt, window shop at a record store/comic book shop, make some tea. Sometimes remembering that you are just a normal person who deserves compassion and some support can spark that same feeling you get when you are motivated to help someone else and that can help you muster the energy to do a dumb small favor for yourself. Edited February 10, 2017 by richardsurf Team Avatar, Tommy and cantdance 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Vool Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 Gumbo giving man advice...I think the end of the world is near! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 I really like that last part Rich - i'm gonna put on my favorite outfit tonight, thats for sure. My friends aren't giving me the comfort I desire, so I guess I could do it for myself haha. I haven't tried therapy yet but I don't know anyone who says it hasn't been incredibly helpful for them, so i will look into it for sure. Oblivions 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Butcha Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 57 minutes ago, Team Avatar said: I really like that last part Rich - i'm gonna put on my favorite outfit tonight, thats for sure. My friends aren't giving me the comfort I desire, so I guess I could do it for myself haha. I haven't tried therapy yet but I don't know anyone who says it hasn't been incredibly helpful for them, so i will look into it for sure. I went through a similar situation semi recently. 4-5 months of seeing this person every single day and all of a sudden...nope. Never again. It's a tough thing to work through but like most situations it will get better. I think everyone is right in saying to get out and do things for yourself. But also take whatever alone time you need to sort these things out in your head. You'll get better when your brain is ready to get better. Just know it'll happen. Which I'm sure you already do. Stay strong dude! Still coming out to PDX soon? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 Having hobbies and making plans with friends is always a good thing to do if you're into being social/active, etc... but if you're in a sensitive or vulnerable state it could be causing more harm than good to be constantly replacing the hole from your relationship with other people/distractions. Realistically, it's good to spend time feeling your feelings and letting them run its course. In my experience, the only way to truly come out of the other side of something emotionally taxing such as a loss/breakup is time. It sucks while you're in it but you'll always come out stronger than you think. With that said, there are always exceptions. If you feel like you're really in a tough space, talking to a professional is never a bad idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roadmonkey Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 (edited) My divorce floored me. Needless to say, I was an emotional wreck. After feeling sorry for myself for way too long, the best thing I ever did was re-evaluate my personal goals for my own life and pursue those harder, which included a lot of stuff I had let fall by the wayside during the marriage, hanging out with my closest friends, and hitting the gym more. I would highly advise against not overindulging in the drink, weed, etc. Can't tell you how many times I started drinking after work and ended up curled in a ball on the floor crying my eyes out. Edited February 10, 2017 by roadmonkey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fungi Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 1 hour ago, Team Avatar said: I really like that last part Rich - i'm gonna put on my favorite outfit tonight, thats for sure. My friends aren't giving me the comfort I desire, so I guess I could do it for myself haha. I haven't tried therapy yet but I don't know anyone who says it hasn't been incredibly helpful for them, so i will look into it for sure. put on your favorite outfit, hit the club with a bunch of blow, find a hottie who'll give you the comfort you desire, meet her in the bathroom stall and do it for yourself. that's all the therapy you'll need. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
just a normal guy kevin Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 This won't work for everyone but...get banned from VC for making threats to other members, come back immediately under a fake persona of a Russian scene kid whose dream is to backpack to the United States, give silly advice to someone asking for sincere advice, and you should feel great and fulfilled within seconds. Black Phillip, chkadea, cantdance and 5 others 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 (edited) 16 minutes ago, Fungi said: put on your favorite outfit, hit the club with a bunch of blow, find a hottie who'll give you the comfort you desire, meet her in the bathroom stall and do it for yourself. that's all the therapy you'll need. Daily reminder for you to actually shut the fuck up and delete your account. And a general announcement to anyone browsing this thread: never take "man advice" from a shitlord who pretends to live in a different country and poses as an emo dweeb stuck in 2006. Please fuck off forever, Halo. Edited February 10, 2017 by Derek™ Tommy and rooks 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THE_James_Champ Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 12 minutes ago, Derek™ said: Daily reminder for you to actually shut the fuck up and delete your account. And a general announcement to anyone browsing this thread: never take "man advice" from a shitlord who pretends to live in a different country and poses as an emo dweeb stuck in 2006. Please fuck off forever, Halo. I thought it was WAXXX. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
videogamesandvinyl Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 10 minutes ago, THE_James_Champ said: I thought it was WAXXX. What about your boy, GatorprideSONNN? Tommy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THE_James_Champ Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 13 minutes ago, videogamesandvinyl said: What about your boy, GatorprideSONNN? ugh. that dude followed me on instagram, and will tag me in weird shit.... instablock. Black Phillip, Thomas³, Fungi and 3 others 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jonnystorm777 Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 17 minutes ago, THE_James_Champ said: ugh. that dude followed me on instagram, and will tag me in weird shit.... instablock. Haha this is really funny. Did he get banned or something? haven't seen him on here in a while. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THE_James_Champ Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 4 minutes ago, jonnystorm777 said: Haha this is really funny. Did he get banned or something? haven't seen him on here in a while. yeah, he did. and when he did, he proceeded to tag myself and @jhulud on instagram about it. Asked me if I knew anything about it, asking Juan to explain what was going on, it was pretty sad. I'm pretty positive I reported all his pictures as spam and blocked his ass. Fungi couldn't be him, because spelling isn't the Gator's specialty. videogamesandvinyl 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 Not only that, but Fungi gravitates towards the same Coachella-core and Pitchfork-approved hip-hop that Halo lapped up. He's also cheekily responded to accusations of being the same person. I'm not 100% sure who the account belongs to, but for simplicity's sake I think we can agree that they're just as insufferable as Halo / Young Thug was. THE_James_Champ, Black Phillip and Tommy 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelby Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 (edited) Gatorpridesonnn is Halos biggest loser troll account. It's weird but I recognize Halos ugly pasty foot from when I found all his info on the internet in that picture with the fish. The kid really needs to get a life lol. Edited February 10, 2017 by Shlebs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 3 hours ago, The Butcha said: I went through a similar situation semi recently. 4-5 months of seeing this person every single day and all of a sudden...nope. Never again. It's a tough thing to work through but like most situations it will get better. I think everyone is right in saying to get out and do things for yourself. But also take whatever alone time you need to sort these things out in your head. You'll get better when your brain is ready to get better. Just know it'll happen. Which I'm sure you already do. Stay strong dude! Still coming out to PDX soon? thank you! And yeah! we booked our flights. March 5th to 13th. I'd love to meet up if your down, we don't have too much planned besides visiting my relative in PDX and Eugene, going to Baby Doll Pizza & Voodoo donuts and going to Bend and the coast. Fair warning though, me and my friend are vegan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Butcha Posted February 10, 2017 Share Posted February 10, 2017 19 minutes ago, Team Avatar said: thank you! And yeah! we booked our flights. March 5th to 13th. I'd love to meet up if your down, we don't have too much planned besides visiting my relative in PDX and Eugene, going to Baby Doll Pizza & Voodoo donuts and going to Bend and the coast. Fair warning though, me and my friend are vegan Vegan and straight edge?? Hanging with a stoner butcher?? I love it. Thomas³, Black Phillip, chkadea and 3 others 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 On 2/10/2017 at 3:57 PM, The Butcha said: Vegan and straight edge?? Hanging with a stoner butcher?? I love it. he at least drinks and occasionally smokes so it won't be allll that bad Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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