Guest Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 I need help. I’m going on my first date tonight in over a year and a half, maybe even two years, I don't know. I say I need help because I was in a five year relationship straight out of high school, and when that ended I chose self-imposed solitude, up until now. I have no idea where to go or what questions are appropriate to ask, since usually most men who approach me in real life make me want to stick my head in an oven after I realize they’re just staring at my boobs, so I use sarcasm to scare them away. so what do you men like to do? I don’t want to do the whole dinner movie thing, but he’s letting me decide and I have no clue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
birdwell Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 do whatever the hell you want to do. say whatever the hell you feel. nothing for refreshing than people not being uptight on a date Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 I was more looking for ideas of where to go/what to do but thank you, I am usually like that anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bgdesign Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Better to do a date where you interact and get to know each other. Dinner is good, but something more interactive than a movie. Be yourself and just understand it's just a date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuzzersonKillwell Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Just exchange Facebook passwords, and spend an hour or two silently researching each other on your mobile devices in a coffee shop. Relationship of the future. beardacus, StrangeTerrain, 4sideddie and 2 others 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjb2k1 Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 go to a baseball game or some other sporting event. it's something to do, you can talk a lot, and there are plenty of topics of conversation related to it. and remember when you get food not to get something that will require messy eating Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Hundred Fifty-Two Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Do something that you get to interact with them, but it doesn't have to be constant. I think a hike would be good if you like the outdoors. You can talk to them, but it is also fine to be silent for a little bit and just walk. Getting tired and a little sweaty is a good way to get you to let your guard down without drinking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tittus Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Definitely something interactive where you can get to know each other a bit more and to see how the other reacts to situations. A museum, aquarium, a hike ^^^. Something along those lines. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hipsterasfolk Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 My long term GF over the past 1/2 a decade, we met over how awkward we were. Vegan cheesecake and soy lattes 4 lyfe She is a preppy lil girl and I was a punk. Polos and bullet belts ahaha We are still odd as fuck but hey it works Dunkpunk123 and [[Delete this account]] 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yarostino Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 first coffee, then record shopping, finally dinner or something similar tml-7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbruise Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 He's letting you decide? Lame, it's not the girls job to make the date. I just went on a first date with a girl ( my first GF from like 6th grade, actually) anyways, reds game, bar, fun time. It was great, and I took care of the planning, man job. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottheisel Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Miniature golf. Great place for a date, especially early in a relationship. littlebistro, makeshiftrigger and chamb117 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GMay Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Grab a drink. If things are going good, milk that drink so you can talk longer, if not, chug it down and GTFO! bathroommonkey 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kgry Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Isn't the guy supposed to decide all this? Unless he asked your opinion and of course you're entitled to speak up. If he asks you to help pay for the date, obviously he's a loser. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
circuit bored records Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 I always like bowling or mini-golf for a first date, not only because I suck at both, but it's the perfect environment to throw back a couple brews or just let your guard down. Unless you're with some ultra-competitive douchebag who's trying to shoot 3 under par at every hole and jams the scorecard in your face at the end of the night. Hopefully you're not with that guy Although with my current and long-time gf that's usually how our nights end up nowadays, only she's shoving her scorecard in my face because she's basically better at everything than me except video games and collecting records. And I shan't be dethroned! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebiglebowski Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 He's letting you decide? Lame, it's not the girls job to make the date. I just went on a first date with a girl ( my first GF from like 6th grade, actually) anyways, reds game, bar, fun time. It was great, and I took care of the planning, man job. Exactly. Seems like a nice thing to do. "I'm in for whatever you want to do". It just leads to that confusing/annoying conversation where neither side wants to make a decision. I might say "You feeling any kind of food for dinner?" If she says "I don't know", I make a call. Keeps everything simple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuzzersonKillwell Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Some people make a good point Madie. Don't you know anything about traditional gender roles? Your job is to make babies, not plans. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebiglebowski Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Some people make a good point Madie. Don't you know anything about traditional gender roles? Your job is to make babies, not plans. Well given that the guy saying "you choose a date" seems to have led exactly to the situation I said myself and most girls hate (indecision), I think it makes a point for my system of thinking. If you think that the onus isn't on the guy to make the first move and put forth more effort early on, I disagree. It doesn't have to be that way, but it is what the large majority of girls expect. The opposite is the exception to the norm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuzzersonKillwell Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 My opinion is based on experiences with a majority of large girls, not a large majority of girls. Maybe I'm just out of my element here. tkprtyrhd 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hankmurphy Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Go for a walk in a park or at a lake or something. Point at ducks and laugh. Then have a picnic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
selfreliable Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 So Dashax finally wore you down and you accepted his date offer? yocaseycasey and hobohunter48 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GradedOnACurve Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Go for a walk in a park or at a lake or something. Point at ducks and laugh. Then have a picnic. This Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 i agree with bowling, mini golf. but do it one better... LAZER TAG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
selfreliable Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Fucking right with lazer tag. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcm1610 Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Strip club! You can laugh about how awkward it is and you'll have that bond over when exactly you're uncomfortable enough to run away from the strippers. rudeboydh 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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