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    MAN ADVICE

    in Everything Else Message Board

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    Renting an apartment sucks and it's foolish to do. If you are in a committed relationship or married buying a house is far better. What you spend a month on rent you could put towards your mortgage and at least have something to show for it. I'd never move in with a girl until marriage it just seems to complicated to move in with someone else.

    This is our reasoning - it would be more economical and we would have something to show for it. I am definitely not moving into another appt, unless my current roomie (brother) bails out on me. That is decided! Some of the discussions we've been having around mortgage limits is sticking with a limit that either of us could handle on our own.

    I'm divorced and very cautious about moving in with a girl again. I want to make sure I do things right this time. Moved in with the first girl after college because we both needed someplace to go and it was easy. That was at about 1 year 4 months and the relationship lasted for another 2.5 years after that.

    It's not really "complicated" to move in with someone, per say, but it is a huge life impacting decision, and it can get complicated fast if shit doesn't work out!! I don't plan to make any decisions for another 6 months minimum. Just kinda putting out feelers to see if anyone else has purchased with a partner before and had it work out. I know 2 personally who have had it work out, and many who haven't... so lets here some more positive stories! lol. But of course don't hold back your negative ones if you have any :).

    MAN ADVICE

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    Wow, page 100 huh?!

    So, I've been dating this girl since October now, and I'm completely in love... it's great. We had some rough spots in the first two months when we were both still trying to get out of single mode, but it's been seriously fantastic since we got over that. I can see myself with this girl for a very very very long time. It's impossible to fight with her, every disagreement we have is calmly and quickly resolved and set aside.

    Now we are talking about how we can't wait to live with each other and how badly we both want to move, how awesome it will be etc etc. Thing is, we are both at the point in our lives where we don't want to move to another apartment, and we both have savings that are planned for house downpayments. We are talking about possibly combining our savings to buy a house together. Currently saying that we will start looking for a place come summer time, which would be about 8-9 months into our relationship. We would seek out a lawyer to draft up an agreement saying we go in 50/50 and come out 50/50 by selling if we happen to break up, so the only downside would be the hassle of trying to sell. We get all the benefits of owning a home and living with someone we love. (we both have lame roomies right now!)

    How soon is too soon to shack up? Any of you ever purchased a home with someone you aren't married to? Looking for experiences and advice.

    MAN ADVICE

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    Grats man best thing about a Christmas anniversary is it will be hard for you to forget the date.

    Thanks man.  Anniversary is actually October 18, 2 days after my bday so that's easy to remember haha.  She just finally added me to fb on Xmas.

     

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    New Years has been tainted for me ever since I came home from a party one year to find my ex wife banging another dude.  Getting better every year though!  I have 3 parties to choose from this year...

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