lonesomexloveus Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 the last guy i dated broke up with me completely out of the blue saying he 'couldn't handle being in a relationship' because he just found out his mom's cancer got worse and he needed to put all his time and energy into taking care of her, etc. he claimed his feelings towards me hadn't changed and it had nothing to do with me, he just couldn't handle any sort of relationship. lo and behold, he already has a new girlfriend and was apparently dating her shortly after he broke up with me. i could be totally wrong, but in my experience i've found that when people 'need space', they're usually just disinterested in you or looking for another option before going back to you if they dont find anything better. or they're just trying to take the easy way out. then again, i'm a little jaded, haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueeyedtheory Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 the last guy i dated broke up with me completely out of the blue saying he 'couldn't handle being in a relationship' because he just found out his mom's cancer got worse and he needed to put all his time and energy into taking care of her, etc. he claimed his feelings towards me hadn't changed and it had nothing to do with me, he just couldn't handle any sort of relationship.lo and behold, he already has a new girlfriend and was apparently dating her shortly after he broke up with me. i could be totally wrong, but in my experience i've found that when people 'need space', they're usually just disinterested in you or looking for another option before going back to you if they dont find anything better. or they're just trying to take the easy way out. then again, i'm a little jaded, haha. If you're a little jaded, then I'm the definition of jaded. I was just trying to be somewhat hopeful in my advice haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmythescumbag Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 ^^ She pretty much hit the nail on the head. That's not to say that every person has ulterior motives, but most do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brotherkyle Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 yeah allison is right on. i'm tired of girls that lie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jurrobear Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 yeah allison is right on. i'm tired of girls that lie. When my ex dumped me, she told me she needed space. shes tried to get with a co-worker, he didnt want to be with her and only wanted to fuck her and we got back together. I regret it everyday cause I was heartbroken twice. I'm now a strong advocate of never getting back with someone after you break up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brotherkyle Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 yeah allison is right on. i'm tired of girls that lie. When my ex dumped me, she told me she needed space. shes tried to get with a co-worker, he didnt want to be with her and only wanted to fuck her and we got back together. I regret it everyday cause I was heartbroken twice. I'm now a strong advocate of never getting back with someone after you break up. I agree man. It didn't work the first time, why would it work the second. I'm jaded like the others in this thread. To quote Einstein "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." People don't change. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonesomexloveus Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 People don't change. true that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmythescumbag Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 People don't change. true that. Yup, especially those who go out of their way to say "but I have changed...blah blah blah." No, you want to believe, and want others to believe, you have changed, but you haven't changed one damn bit. "Accidentally" having a kid, then blaming having said kid for ruining your life, while going around claiming "my kid is my life" to people in public just to seem like you are a model parent, is not change. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonesomexloveus Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 people can temporarily act different to fool someone into taking them back, or to get what they want, but ultimately, we all are who we are and people can only put up that charade for so long before they slip back into who they truly are. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittenmittons Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 this is why you never date someone with the intention of changing them. if you don't love who they are from the start you're wasting each other's time. just the idea of changing for someone rubs me the wrong way...it's like you COULD be perfect for someone else but you're forcing yourself into a mold that doesn't fit...it's such a waste of a life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kgry Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 I was pretty much in this exact same situation. When she says she needs time off, it means she's seeing the other guy again. Trust me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmythescumbag Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 I was pretty much in this exact same situation. When she says she needs time off, it means she's seeing the other guy again. Trust me. This. Do yourself a favor, and call her up and tell her it is over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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