I met my girlfriend on absolutepunk (all of you stfu right now). We joined the same day, actually. After just chatting randomly on there as friends for like a year (and about really serious shit too. I was going through my divorce and she was on off with this chick who treated her like shit...it was neat because I was one perspective and she was the other, similar situations in two relationships) one night I just decided on a whim to give her my number and like "take it off ap"...talk in real life and not just through a message board. We ended up talking all night. My phone died and I gave her my home phone number, which very few people have. We talked through that morning until she had to go to church. Our attraction was immediate, but dude, she lives in San Jose, CA and I live in Durham, NC. Regardless, the attraction. So I convinced her to let me fly out there for a couple of days. We made sure lots of people knew I was going there in case I or she turned out to be an axe murderer.
The sex was (and is) amazing, she likes the same music as me, she likes hockey and teaches me about it like I do with her and baseball, we like grilling and cooking, video games, same television shows, just like....anything and everything I could want in a woman. But the catch? Ohhhhhhh, 3000 miles of distance.
We talked about it, and we decided to go for it and see how far we could take this thing. We both knew this was gonna suck megaballs, but like, for the first time in my life, I'm not waiting on the next best thing. I don't notice other girls. I can't even imagine being with anyone else for the rest of my life. I want to make babies with this girl and have a life and shit. After how shit went down with my ex-wife I didn't think I'd get to find this kind of love. But yeah, that was in right at the end of March 2011 and here we are.
I think our biggest challenge is coordinating schedules and planning visits. She's getting her pre-reqs out of the way for nursing school and works at Target, and they are not big on letting you request time off in advance...or at least comfortably enough to buy reasonably priced plane tickets. We've seen each other twice so far this year, a few days in Feb and a week at the end of June. She'll be here for a week in September, and I'm shooting for getting out there for New Year's.
Wait, I lied. More background on me, I am an alcoholic, sober for nearly 3 years now. She's not a partier and neither am I, obviously. She doesn't drink or smoke weed or anything, and honestly that is the best possible situation I could have hoped for as a recovering booze hound. But she has an issue with my weed smoking (which I do not do much of, unless I am up north with my family, and then I am a weed chimney, and I'll usually bring some back south with me, even if I cannot afford it...my spending is a whole other story). It is long and complicated but her last and only major relationship ended (for the last time) in a terrible flaming mess of her gf ditching out on a road trip they'd planned, the day of, so she could do a bunch of coke and shit. So as long as I'm smoking, I might pick the drugs over her and leave. At least this is my understanding of it. The addiction stuff is very complicated for me, as some of you may understand. I think this situation would be SO MUCH EASIER if we were together like a normal couple, where we could talk this over face to face, eye contact, etc. Where I could be there for her every day, so maybe she wouldn't worry so much about me possibly leaving. Which I am not. I am super duper in love with her.
Anyway, that crap aside, half for us and half for me (I just can't afford this thing anymore), I'm now selling my house. The plan now is for me to downsize to an apartment, save up some money, find a job and move there. We are hoping that this time frame is only a year, but who knows. I really cannot wait for that next chapter.
Thanks for this info. I always miss out in these. Scored Wilco, Pharcyde, J Dilla, 2 Gratefull Dead reissues, and TWO Of Montreal's on sea foam green, all for 6.99 each.
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