kjkenney Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 so, I've always been in bands with pretty close friends so no drama would really arise, and if anything did it would be small stuff we got over quickly. Lately, with my current band, our drummer just does not seem like hes into it anymore. the deal is that the other guitarist works for forest services so he gets shipped off to other states for 2 wks at a time during the spring/summer; really at any point this is possible. This has been laid on the table multiple times and we all agree that we still think its worth it to continue even if this is the case, but every now and then the drummer seems very irked by the situation. now I understand this, but we all already agreed on the stipulations of getting this off the ground so its very frustrating when his frustration just turns into negativity and he just seems like he doesn't care about what happens, what we do, how we progress, etc...is this something that anyone else encountered? Hes an awesome dude, its just getting really saddening and puts us all in a bad mood...I'm kinda bad at speaking my mind in certain situations like this, so I'm just looking to see how anyone thinks this should be approached, thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest errolwest Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 approach it straight on, and talk to him about it. the worst thing you can do is beat around the bush, or just not talk about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kjkenney Posted April 25, 2011 Author Share Posted April 25, 2011 yeah true story...I basically just need to man up and approach him about it. He gets suuuper defensive when we ask what his problem is so it makes it really hard sometimes, but I guess thats all there is to it eh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snaggle Von Swift Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 approach it straight on, and talk to him about it. the worst thing you can do is beat around the bush, or just not talk about it. agreed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest errolwest Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 yeah, its tough, buuuut it is always better in the long run to be as direct as possible. things tend to blow up in your face, otherwise. haha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
user456 Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 Yeah, just talk to him about it. If he's not into the band or where you are going maybe you can find a replacement drummer. I think every band goes through stuff like this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kjkenney Posted April 25, 2011 Author Share Posted April 25, 2011 thanks pplz. I suppose there's really no other way around it so tonight it shall be done Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
almightyseancore Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 it's so you have 2 guitar players and one sometimes leaves... how is this a problem? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kjkenney Posted April 25, 2011 Author Share Posted April 25, 2011 its very post-rocky so the parts we have are waaaay different from each other. if one guitar is missing it removes a huge chunk of the songs out of there. its not like some pop-punk band where everything is interchangeable unfortunately. but yeah I don't see it as that huge of a problem, just can be a nuisance when working on already formulated shizz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnnyu11 Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 i think that you should consider another finding another drummer....but keep working with who you have until you find the right person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Hundred Fifty-Two Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 Thought this before I opened the thread and it is still true after reading it. Kick him out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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