corbet Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 I've been dating this girl for about a month now and I've been pretty nice to her. I think she's a keeper and have been trying really hard to sweep her off her feet. Last night we were talking about meeting for the first time and I was greeted with this: Her: The first time we hung out you were all like forceful and assholeish. Oh what happened to my mr. mean? Me: You seriously want that back? Her: Yes, I do actually. I dont like mr. nice guy all the time, I dont like to feel like I'm in control all the time. Now, I will admit that ever since the first visit I've been overly nice - probably even too nice. I've always been that nice guy. In regards to my first time seeing her, I guess I was "assholish and forceful" because I told her to "come over here and give me a hug" and I grabbed her to get closer during the movie. How can I go about being more assertive? Does anyone have any scenarios that will help me "be more in control" with her? Am I too late? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sonix Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 lots and lots of duct tape. :> also; pics???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pjaicomo Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Just don't be too fussy with her. "Oh what do you want to do?" Don't say shit like that so much. Just tell her what you are going to do, and do it. Follow your own lead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danthemjfan23 Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 this is everything that's wrong with girls. i've never heard a guy say "you know what? i really want date a huge bitch" or "why'd you break up with her? cause she was too nice???" women want to date jerks, and the ones that don't think they want to end up doing it anyway. then when they finally realize they are, they won't break up with them because they think they can change them. you want my advice, dude? just lose the girl. there's plenty of others out there who will like you for being the "nice guy" and won't force you to be somebody you're not, or make you do things you're not comfortable with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pjaicomo Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Oh Dan, you are so sensible! You are right. Corbet: Grow a mustache. Maybe that will help too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pjaicomo Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 ps How does one get such bad karma? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manicdogbert Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 beat her up every now and then. sounds like something she'd like. she wants forceful? fuck her in the ass with no lube. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reachforthesky Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 take her out to a really nice seafood dinner, get what you can from her, then never call her again. That's pretty assholeish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pjaicomo Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 take her out to a really nice seafood dinner, get what you can from her, then never call her again. That's pretty assholeish Assholish? That seems fair to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxmartinxx Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Any girl who wants you to treat them like shit has serious "daddy issues" and is the opposite of the "keeper" you described. I'm not telling you to run, but I would just assume the relationship is going to run its course and then it will be over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
casey Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Any girl who wants you to treat them like shit has serious "daddy issues" and is the opposite of the "keeper" you described. Yes. First, if a girl is already telling you how to behave on your second date, it's a bad sign. Second, the "girls like asshole guys" is not a rule that one demands to be followed. If a girl does that, then the girl has issues. Third, and this is important, if you already have problems like this on the second date, drop her. The first few months are supposed to be "honeymoon period" where you just get to be yourself and find out if someone likes you. If you have to second guess yourself, that shit is not worth it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxmartinxx Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Any girl who wants you to treat them like shit has serious "daddy issues" and is the opposite of the "keeper" you described. Yes. First, if a girl is already telling you how to behave on your second date, it's a bad sign. Second, the "girls like asshole guys" is not a rule that one demands to be followed. If a girl does that, then the girl has issues. Third, and this is important, if you already have problems like this on the second date, drop her. The first few months are supposed to be "honeymoon period" where you just get to be yourself and find out if someone likes you. If you have to second guess yourself, that shit is not worth it. I agree with this, however don't drop her until after you blast her in the balloon knot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jayeffscene Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 you want my advice, dude? just lose the girl. Make sure you save the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minty Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 ANAL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quinncallahan Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 dump her and find a new girl if that is what she is looking for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jcamps Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 you want my advice, dude? just lose the girl. Make sure you save the world. hahahahhaaha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
casey Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 I agree with this, however don't drop her until after you blast her in the balloon knot. It's been my experience that it takes a lot of smooth talk to get in the forbidden zone. With the girl he's describing, I wouldn't feel comfortable saying anything endearing because a) she sucks, and she wouldn't like it. Which leads me to c) any girl that will straight up take it without any lead-in is probably one you will regret having any sort of intercourse with at some point. Either she will a) get stalker clingy or you will get butt herpes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tanukichu Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 I apoligize on the behalf of my gender for how ridiculous we can be like in the case of the girl in question. I'm not sure what her deal is. What I look for in a guy is balance. Nice but not a complete pushover. I like a guy to have spine and assertiveness about him without being a tool. A happy medium. I find this is the case with most levelheaded girls. I never understood the whole desire to date a complete asshat. Maybe you should just get out while you're not so far in this relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
subhomeseabs Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Some girls are crazy, find one that isn't. You should have sex with her one last time THEN break up with her. That's an asshole move for sure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doogie Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 call her a slut in front of her friends. They'll tell her what a dick bag you are everytime she mentions you. forever. I think what her deal is that she wants a challenge and if you are super nice to her all the time the challenge is gone. And girls are nuts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rtw88 Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Do lubeless anal and then punch her in the back of the head when you're done. Sounds like that'd be right up this broad's alley. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jayeffscene Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 Some girls are crazy Just listen to what I have to say about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j4m35 Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 girls don't matter cause we all die alone anyway Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
divaface Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 girls don't matter cause we all die alone anyway that's a little depressing. send her noods to her whole email address book. works every time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j4m35 Posted January 19, 2009 Share Posted January 19, 2009 yeah, sorry for projecting my bad mood onto everyone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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