pickrunner18 Posted December 12, 2012 Share Posted December 12, 2012 I dont know what they have done, but she speaks negatively about them whenever they come up. We've been officially together since September, but were talking for a long time before that. She told me shes afraid to get attached and shes basically forcing herself not to. Im patient and have no problem being patient, I just dont want her to force herself not to so that when she feels like she is, she winds up breaking up with me because shes scared. she has to be afraid of getting hurt or being too dependent. it sucks that she's forcing herself not to get more attached, but hopefully she'll come around with more time. just let her know that you have no problem with how long it takes so she doesn't feel any pressure Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pickrunner18 Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 bout to go get food with my ex. not sure what to think of this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjb2k1 Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 it's a trap! BuzzersonKillwell and yocaseycasey 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 Been thinking a lot about my ex that I broke up with last month. I have really serious commitment issues, so any time it ever gets slightly serious at all, I tend to get the fuck out of dodge. It hit me last night that I probably really really cared for her, but did what I always tend to do- sabotage anything and everything, making things up in my head as to why it should end. I was never vocal enough about how I thought things were moving a little too fast and now I feel like a dick. I texted her this morning asking if she'd want to talk about things and she said yes and that she still had feelings for me. So I think I'm gonna finally going to man the fuck up and face my fear. Sorry, long rant. Props to those who made it through the entire thing. TLNR. philviral 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjb2k1 Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 Been thinking a lot about my ex that I broke up with last month. I have really serious commitment issues, so any time it ever gets slightly serious at all, I tend to get the fuck out of dodge. It hit me last night that I probably really really cared for her, but did what I always tend to do- sabotage anything and everything, making things up in my head as to why it should end. I was never vocal enough about how I thought things were moving a little too fast and now I feel like a dick. I texted her this morning asking if she'd want to talk about things and she said yes and that she still had feelings for me. So I think I'm gonna finally going to man the fuck up and face my fear. Sorry, long rant. Props to those who made it through the entire thing. TLNR. no risk, no reward, my friend. good luck!! ronniegwilliams 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billya Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 I really hate the fact that the girl I am very fond of lives 800 miles away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pickrunner18 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I just don't know how/if/when I should bring up getting back together. she said to give her time like 3 weeks ago Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seangj Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I just don't know how/if/when I should bring up getting back together. she said to give her time like 3 weeks ago See how getting food goes. If she wants to see you, that can be a good thing. I wouldn't ask her to get back together right away though. Wait a few "dates" and she how she feels. The ball is in her court now, which sucks but can be nice too. I told my wife that I love her after 2 months of dating. She replied, "Thank you?" After that I hung there and waited. She knew how I felt and let me know when she was ready. It was embarrassing at first, but was nice in the long run. I put my feelings out there first, so it was up to her to her to advance the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 i don't understand the whole butthurt about "i love you!" & "...thank you" it's a lot to tell someone you love them. but it's equally as much to expect them to feel the same. i wouldn't want someone saying it back if they didn't mean it. i'm with you ^.. it's nothing i've faced, but if it did happen, i can just imagine saying "well you know how i feel", and then leaving those words alone until the time was right for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjb2k1 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 lol i spent a week saying "i love you" into my gf's hair while holding her at sleepy times before i worked up to actually say it TO her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seangj Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 It feels super bad when the "I love you" is not returned, but it is so much more genuine when it finally does happen after. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjb2k1 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 yes i should add that she said it back, woot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dashhax Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I feel like the word "Love" gets over used. Not to mention it can be blown out of proportion so easily. It puts the person receiving it in an awkward situation as well as the person saying it. I know people who have said they loved someone in the first month of dating. It just seems crazy to me that it can happen that fast but everyone is different. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Being in love rules. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hobohunter48 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 LOL @ Page 69 seangj and almightyseancore 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dashhax Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Being in love rules. It does rule, I just think it takes more than a few months to find. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
almightyseancore Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 LOL @ Page 69 hobohunter48 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 It does rule, I just think it takes more than a few months to find. Not always, a good couple I'm pretty close to were super in love within weeks, it's pretty obvious that it's real too. Makes me a bit jealous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
partysmasher Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 It does rule, I just think it takes more than a few months to find. my gf and i told each other we loved each other after three months or so, that was six years ago and this time next year we'll be married Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pickrunner18 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 so last night with the ex went well, and today we had dinner and now we're at a mall. things still feel kind of weird with the whole situation though. I really want to just ask her how she feels so I'm not stuck wasting my time like this. a rejection now would hurt, but not nearly as much as if I were to keep this hanging out thing up for another week or two Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 has there been any follow up communication? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pickrunner18 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 I mean we texted after I left her place last night and a little bit today before we hung out. the optimist in me is thinking that if she wasn't interested, then we wouldn't be hanging out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dashhax Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 my gf and i told each other we loved each other after three months or so, that was six years ago and this time next year we'll be married Awesome man good on you to. I use to misread the situation when I was younger. I would think I was in love but I was just infatuated. As I got older I learned to identify feelings differently I guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 so last night with the ex went well, and today we had dinner and now we're at a mall. things still feel kind of weird with the whole situation though. I really want to just ask her how she feels so I'm not stuck wasting my time like this. a rejection now would hurt, but not nearly as much as if I were to keep this hanging out thing up for another week or two If you want to ask her, then you should ask her. There is no use in wasting your time only to get more hurt in the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 i'd say ask Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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