Dashhax Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Ask her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nick6ten Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 I've been lurking this thread since it started, but my pathetic love life has left me with nothing to contribute. I thought I was stuck in a friend zone with the most awesome girl I've ever known, until a few weeks ago when it turned into more. That was awesome, we've gone on some great dates and got to do some fun holiday themed dates too. Also, she's 20 and I'm 28. I don't understand why she want's to spend any time with me, but It's awesome. Unfortunately, we're obviously at different places in our lives in terms of what we want out of this and she also lives and goes to school in Chicago, which isn't too far from Cincinnati, but isn't very interested in trying to make a long distance relationship work. Pretty bummed about that, but I guess I'll make the most of it while I can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cymbalism15 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 I've been lurking this thread since it started, but my pathetic love life has left me with nothing to contribute. I thought I was stuck in a friend zone with the most awesome girl I've ever known, until a few weeks ago when it turned into more. That was awesome, we've gone on some great dates and got to do some fun holiday themed dates too. Also, she's 20 and I'm 28. I don't understand why she want's to spend any time with me, but It's awesome. Unfortunately, we're obviously at different places in our lives in terms of what we want out of this and she also lives and goes to school in Chicago, which isn't too far from Cincinnati, but isn't very interested in trying to make a long distance relationship work. Pretty bummed about that, but I guess I'll make the most of it while I can. Because you're fucking awesome and she's lucky to have you. Confidence man. nick6ten 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nick6ten Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Because you're fucking awesome and she's lucky to have you. Confidence man. That's totally true, but I haven't dated anyone in 4 years or so, so my confidence in this isn't too high right now. That's not the case when we're hanging out, I've never felt so comfortable around anyone else before. You know when people get married and they are all like "oh, this person is my best friend, blah blah blah" I never really bough into that before and just thought it was something people said, but I totally get it now, gives me some hope for the future. This girl is a total babe, and we met at a game of wiffle ball. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cymbalism15 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 That's totally true, but I haven't dated anyone in 4 years or so, so my confidence in this isn't too high right now. That's not the case when we're hanging out, I've never felt so comfortable around anyone else before. You know when people get married and they are all like "oh, this person is my best friend, blah blah blah" I never really bough into that before and just thought it was something people said, but I totally get it now, gives me some hope for the future. This girl is a total babe, and we met at a game of wiffle ball. She's clearly a keeper, good luck man! You got this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nick6ten Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 She's clearly a keeper, good luck man! You got this Perfect. Right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cymbalism15 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Perfect. Right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
almightyseancore Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 it's not perfect until you can fart in front of each other and laugh about it. or have conversations while one of you is shitting with the door open. my wife and i do this on the reg. yocaseycasey, ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ and rudeboydh 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottheisel Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 I'd say a solid 65% of my marriage is built on the humor of farts. icecream, yocaseycasey and ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 my only serious ex has a new boyfriend and I was looking forward to seeing her over break and now I can't and I'm so upset that I'm so upset over it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 went out with the same girl tonight. we were supposed to catch some gallery openings on friday, and junk got in the way, so we wanted to make up for it tonight. except everything was closed by the time we got there. we ended up just having a couple drinks again, and having conversation. basically, we've addressed the fact that most of the talking has been about me. and we can't seem to escape it. we try steering it towards her, and nothing really comes of it. and i'm not sure if it's a bad thing. because whatever the conversation, it's enjoyable. she seems engaged, and i enjoy talking to/with her. still haven't made a move of any sort. tonight could have been a good time for it, but we got back to my house, and i walked her to her car which was right in front of my living room window where my dad was.. which is just awkward i guess. i hate to say it, but i think one of the things holding me back from really finding out who she is and what she's about is the fact that she so recently left a guy that she was living with. it doesn't bother me at all, but it's still kind of the elephant in the room. and i even said earlier in this chat that this early on with seeing someone, there should be NO obligation to reveal that kind of information. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pickrunner18 Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 i hate to say it, but i think one of the things holding me back from really finding out who she is and what she's about is the fact that she so recently left a guy that she was living with. it doesn't bother me at all, but it's still kind of the elephant in the room. and i even said earlier in this chat that this early on with seeing someone, there should be NO obligation to reveal that kind of information. that would hold me back too; I'd probably even be a little bothered by it...but that's the kind of thing that you'll get past the more you hang out. at least that's how it works with me. it sounds like you've got a good thing going right now things with my ex are still pretty foggy. or maybe it's clear and I'm in denial. she still doesn't seem all that into hanging out with me, even though we watched the dexter finale on sunday and got food today. I'm just gonna see what happens with it. I started talking to two other girls this week so hopefully one of those goes somewhere. one of the girls I had a thing for back in high school, but she's always been really difficult to hang out with. at any rate, it's nice to be talking to girls that want to talk to me. and does anyone else think it's weird when a guest reads this thread? there's one reading right now. major creepfest Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 you scared them off! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pickrunner18 Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 I saw! I was just about to edit my last post MOTHAFUCK YOU GUEST Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 we met up again tonight. she works with my sisters best friend who turned 21 today.. so we were out for that. we were also asked twice if i was her boyfriend. it's a good sign if people are assuming that, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbruise Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 Means you look good together probably. I'd take it as a good thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dashhax Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 I have recently gotten involved with this girl with no strings attached who I met at school. We are keeping it strictly "Friends with Benefits" This started a few weeks ago generally we text everyday on and off. I want to keep this strictly non commitment but when she text me sometimes she will says "just got home I was out with this kid" My question is even though we are in a non committal relationship should I be getting suspicious or worried about her hanging out with other guys? I have never liked sharing and if I'm not the only one with this girl it's a real turn off for me. Any advice on what I should do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 You shouldn't be suspicious. You're just in a physical relationship. You can tell her how you feel, but you shouldn't be upset if she still wants to be with other dudes. She doesn't owe you anything other then "benefits." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 Agreed, if you two are non committed she has the right to hang out with other dudes. If it makes you jealous, maybe you're actually wanting more than friends with benefits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dashhax Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 Thanks for the advice guys very true. I will take that into consideration. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pickrunner18 Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 I have recently gotten involved with this girl with no strings attached who I met at school. We are keeping it strictly "Friends with Benefits" This started a few weeks ago generally we text everyday on and off. I want to keep this strictly non commitment but when she text me sometimes she will says "just got home I was out with this kid" My question is even though we are in a non committal relationship should I be getting suspicious or worried about her hanging out with other guys? I have never liked sharing and if I'm not the only one with this girl it's a real turn off for me. Any advice on what I should do? sharing is weird, and I don't like it, but I agree with what Rad said. texting each other on and off every day is probably a bad idea if you want to keep it physical and emotionless. the less into her life you see, the better Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dashhax Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 sharing is weird, and I don't like it, but I agree with what Rad said. texting each other on and off every day is probably a bad idea if you want to keep it physical and emotionless. the less into her life you see, the better I'm not a fan of sharing at all, if I do find out she is also seeing someone else on the side I would stop seeing her. The texting isn't a big deal she sends me pics of herself once and a while and we generally find out each others plans for the day to see if we can hang out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abovetheearth Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 I have recently gotten involved with this girl with no strings attached who I met at school. We are keeping it strictly "Friends with Benefits" This started a few weeks ago generally we text everyday on and off. I want to keep this strictly non commitment but when she text me sometimes she will says "just got home I was out with this kid" My question is even though we are in a non committal relationship should I be getting suspicious or worried about her hanging out with other guys? I have never liked sharing and if I'm not the only one with this girl it's a real turn off for me. Any advice on what I should do? Get out now. Things will get worse for u. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dashhax Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 Get out now. Things will get worse for u. I am very tempted, but she is just so cool to hang out with. She really is a good friend but like I said before I am feeling a little suspicious so it makes me distrust her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yocaseycasey Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 I broke up with a girl over milkshakes once. I didn't answer my phone for two weeks, and she went through different phases: worried, pissed, sad, more pissed, hysterically sad. So I finally answered my phone and told her to meet me at Steak n Shake, where I told her I didn't want to date her anymore. I used to be a dick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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