TheGhostOfRandySavage Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 haha true. I actually think we're house shopping the day after the wedding... *finds perfect house* "this house is dope. let's buy it… and get married btw" This is adorable. And acceptable as it is the next day. haha Yup. Perfect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I like the idea too but part of me felt it was silly. Since all of you seem to like it… corn maze it is! Her parents are coming to visit from CA soon. hopefully she doesn't say "let's wait until they get here and we can all do the maze together." I kind of want to do it before they get here. If she does suggest it, maybe you can counter it with apple picking or something? Something more "parent-friendly"? Have you talked to her parents about the engagement? Do people do that anymore? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjb2k1 Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 i believe my brother talked to his now wife's father before he proposed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hairy Potter Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 If she does suggest it, maybe you can counter it with apple picking or something? Something more "parent-friendly"? Have you talked to her parents about the engagement? Do people do that anymore? haha yeahh abouttt thattt. I only met them once since they live in CA. I wasn't sure if i should call them or something? i feel like that would be weird and awkward. It also feels old fashioned. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGhostOfRandySavage Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 haha yeahh abouttt thattt. I only met them once since they live in CA. I wasn't sure if i should call them or something? i feel like that would be weird and awkward. It also feels old fashioned. I was in a similar situation. I didn't say anything to my wife's parents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+hecollec+or Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 i believe my brother talked to his now wife's father before he proposed. I guess I'm old-fashioned but I would def talk to a gf's dad before popping the question. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Logan Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 i don't have a dad, you have lucked out future (probably non-existent) husband! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 i believe my brother talked to his now wife's father before he proposed. haha yeahh abouttt thattt. I only met them once since they live in CA. I wasn't sure if i should call them or something? i feel like that would be weird and awkward. It also feels old fashioned. Yeah I definitely think it's a responsible/respectful thing to do, but it does appear to be awfully dated. Maybe you can figure out a more non traditional way of asking him? Does he like beer? Some microbreweries have special 6 packs etc. Maybe you can have one sent to him with a note on it? Something like "I'd like to have a conversation with you over some beers - call me when you can!" Or something like that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGhostOfRandySavage Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I guess I'm old-fashioned but I would def talk to a gf's dad before popping the question. Why? So if he says no you can go ahead with it anyway? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hairy Potter Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I was in a similar situation. I didn't say anything to my wife's parents. yeah! if they were near by and we saw them as much as we see my parents it wold be a different story. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGhostOfRandySavage Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Yeah I definitely think it's a responsible/respectful thing to do, but it does appear to be awfully dated. Maybe you can figure out a more non traditional way of asking him? Does he like beer? Some microbreweries have special 6 packs etc. Maybe you can have one sent to him with a note on it? Something like "I'd like to have a conversation with you over some beers - call me when you can!" Or something like that? I just don't see why anyone else should know before she does...? Doesn't that kind of take the piss out of her saying, "Guess what guys, we're engaged!"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hairy Potter Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I kinda feel like its just a formality anyway. I don't think he would say "no" and even if he did it wouldn't change anything Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGhostOfRandySavage Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I kinda feel like its just a formality anyway. I don't think he would say "no" and even if he did it wouldn't change anything Yeah, exactly. Why ask permission if you're just going to do it anyway is what I was saying to the other folks. Plus, if the fam already knows, she's going to feel like her thunder was stolen when she goes to tell them and they're all, "We know! Your fiance told us before he told you!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I just don't see why anyone else should know before she does...? Doesn't that kind of take the piss out of her saying, "Guess what guys, we're engaged!"? I think about it as a respectful thing. I already said it's dated. It would then take the piss out of the billions of women who's new fiances asked her parents permission lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGhostOfRandySavage Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 It would then take the piss out of the billions of women who's new fiances asked her parents permission lol. This is exactly what I'm saying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Logan Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Seriously though, if someone asked my mom for my hand in marriage I would know about it within minutes. Not because she would tell me, but because she would call the entire universe and it would get back to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheGhostOfRandySavage Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Seriously though, if someone asked my mom for my hand in marriage I would know about it within minutes. Not because she would tell me, but because she would call the entire universe and it would get back to me. Yuuuup. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Logan Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 If someone asked my grandpa for my hand in marriage, he would show them his gun collection. So really, it's a lose/lose situation to ask anyone to marry me because in the end the only real permission you need is mine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Logan Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 If I ever date someone, please relay this information to them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I expect my future husband to talk to my parents, had no idea that wasn't still a thing. If I were the dude I'd want to start out on the right foot with my future in-laws, right? I think it's very respectful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+hecollec+or Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 If I ever date someone, please relay this information to them. No prob, I just told Sheebles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hairy Potter Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I'm not too worried about not asking permission. Her mother is from the Philippines so (i'm assuming here) her father probably did not ask permission before proposing. I feel like he wouldn't feel disrespected. They are really cool laid back people too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+hecollec+or Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 Why? So if he says no you can go ahead with it anyway? I expect my future husband to talk to my parents, had no idea that wasn't still a thing. If I were the dude I'd want to start out on the right foot with my future in-laws, right? I think it's very respectful. What she said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 This is exactly what I'm saying. My point was that I think they survived having their fiances talk to their parents. It's not the end of the world. If everything is civil all the way around, not to mention respectful, then there's nothing to complain about. If the guy doesn't get along with the in-laws, that's a different situation totally. There's no point in getting wrapped up in the tiniest details of the biggest milestone in your life for the sake of "I do what I want." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Logan Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 I expect my future husband to talk to my parents, had no idea that wasn't still a thing. If I were the dude I'd want to start out on the right foot with my future in-laws, right? I think it's very respectful. I think if I was in a different family situation, I would agree! I think it really just depends on the people in the relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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