I'm not sure any of this is helpful, but here goes.
First, I'm truly sorry you and her are at the point you are at right now. Fighting in a relationship, especially with the one person who means the world to you....love can be the most beautiful and rewarding of feelings, but also the most brutal and painful. You need one for the other.
Second, and I don't mean to sound cold, but it sounds like you need to swallow your pride if she does mean everything to you. You have to know when to admit you're wrong, but also she has to come to terms and accept that living in a strange city is difficult, too. Lay it all out on the line, because at this point, what do you have to lose that you feel like you haven't lost already? Maybe a catharsis is what you need, or maybe it won't change a thing, but I think opening up, and then giving it space to breathe so you both can take the appropriate time to decompress, will do you a world of good.
I'm not sure any of this is helpful, but here goes.
First, I'm truly sorry you and her are at the point you are at right now. Fighting in a relationship, especially with the one person who means the world to you....love can be the most beautiful and rewarding of feelings, but also the most brutal and painful. You need one for the other.
Second, and I don't mean to sound cold, but it sounds like you need to swallow your pride if she does mean everything to you. You have to know when to admit you're wrong, but also she has to come to terms and accept that living in a strange city is difficult, too. Lay it all out on the line, because at this point, what do you have to lose that you feel like you haven't lost already? Maybe a catharsis is what you need, or maybe it won't change a thing, but I think opening up, and then giving it space to breathe so you both can take the appropriate time to decompress, will do you a world of good.
Morning everyone. Glad that IIOI PO wasn't too steep this morning. The post rock gods have heard my calling as Matt got me a tour press of Beware of Saftey's Dogs for $10. My incoming list is growing..and growing...and growing.
I love me some good country: Dolly Parton, Del Reeves, Emmylou Harris, Elvis, George Jones, Cash, Kansas Joe McCoy, Kenny Rogers, Patsy Cline, Roger Miller, Tony Joe White, Steve Earle, Tammy Wynette, Willie Nelson, Zach Brown Band, Waylon Jennings, Kris Kristofferson, Hank Williams, Loretta Lynn, Townes Van Zandt, I can go on and on. Damn, I love me some good country music. So heartfelt, so depressing, so pure.
There are components of your rant that are truly justified, Satan: the recent increase of (misplaced) threads dedicated to Fall Out Boy inquiries and Paramore pricing. The New Bermuda dude who's genuinely upset that his colored wax doesn't match the mockup photo. The never-ending stream of complaints about shipping costs, corner dings, flipping records, and securing tour variants. It's nothing new, and it's more than alright to blow off some steam now and then.
However. You're complaining about what makes VC so tough to browse, some days... but the irony here - if I'm being brutally honest - is that I'd rather read about seam splits and absurd MSRP prices over "VC veterans" grasping for attention. I've called you out before because you post some of the dumbest try-hard shit I've ever seen on the boards. Ranging from comments that broadly dismiss everyone's tastes (i.e. "There's a similar discussion to this one going on in the [ ] thread, but none of you would know that because you all listen to shit") to tastefully posting "ya'll are a bunch of faggots" in the middle of a discussion on [homo]sexuality – and why it's not alright to post derogatory comments pertaining to it. I mean, I get that you're trying to be ironic or witty by attempting to derail topics in the flashiest ways possible. But it just comes off as "hey guys look at me i'm being all edgy and shit lol". It's embarrassing, and it induces way more cringes than any number of non-ironic Crosley threads will. At least for me.
I've been accused of being a VC elitist more than once. I'm pushing 9,000 posts, I'm aware, and I've been a member for nearly 7 years now, but the majority of those posts (and time) have been spent on niche discussions about music I'm excited for. I don't regret them. I do a lot more lurking than posting, and find myself scrapping a huge portion of my posts when I consider the weight of my words and whether or not they're even worth submitting. [This post, for example, has been considered for deletion at least three times now.] I was a part of the Proboards just like you were, so, yeah, I've seen some shit. And I feel like there will always be new topics and members to point and laugh at. I can't deny that it's nice to have a little fun with the newbies now and then, and I'm all-too guilty of getting in the periodic jab when a redundant questions begs for a sarcastic response. But there's no reason to continually harass new members past the point of some light initiation hazing.
As far as tastes? – it's all subjective, sure, but you're right: as a collective, this board's tastes are fucking terrible. There. I said it. More and more young people join every week, and there also seems to be a select group of adults who are chomping at the bit for Blink-182 reissues. It's whatever. But you need to stop stressing it and just adapt. I don't even graze the Hot Topic repress threads, because - as snobby as I may sound - I basically have zero interest in 99% of the music that Travis is pressing splatter copies of. Why rain on someone else's parade, or waste the energy to post something negative in a thread clearly catered to discuss the excitement for a release in a positive environment? It seems pointless. Work can get a little boring for me, of course, but there are a million other things to read and interact with, on the world wide web. Once you develop a knack for letting those threads bubble up to the top of the boards while still tuning them out, it becomes pretty easy to lighten up and care less about the "inferior" music that so much of VC seems to be stuck on. I love a good discussion on genres, tastes, and what it means to explore new music; even if I poke fun at the folks bouncing off the walls for My Chemical Romance represses, I don't think that I'm somehow better than them because my tastes have "evolved" past "high school drivel". I just keep on scrolling and find something relevant to my interests. It's pretty easy.
Members being attacked for their age is just stupid. I agree that an occasional joke is worth posting when the comedic timing is right, but when users are being ridiculed just for being younger [or older] than the general age pool? Come on. DOMAN's in high-school and posts more articulate, relevant replies - that are in line with the forum rules - than a huge portion of new members. And Don (drds89) is probably old enough to be my dad, but has no shortage of excellent recommendations and positive things to contribute to a lot of quality threads. Point at hand? – age is moot. Let it go. If you really want to keep at it and get nasty, though, we can talk about your sleek "ninja edits", where you go on caps-lock tirades and then proceed to backspace them, leaving a simple "sorry I was drunk" in their place. Losing your cool to someone half your age, flying off the handle, not having the balls to stick by your initial rant, and blaming it on a mid-day buzz? That's pretty cool, I guess. But proceeding to reply with "fuck the fuck right off, you don't know me or my sense of humor" when someone casually calls you out on it – that, right there, is the true essence of pushing 30. Give me a break, man.
I'm all for healthy, isolated rants and I'm also a sucker for irony. This topic delivers both in spades. Sorry if I come off as a condescending prick. I'm just staying true to the thread's theme, I guess:
Things will never go back to the old way because there's too much threat of banning if you say/do anything. Even when I joined I used to have fun, but so many hot topic kids got so upset that I .gif bombed their thread that I caught a bad case of the ban hammers.
Coma White is the only Marylin Manson song I like.
Of course I haven't listened to it since I was younger than Rez. You know, when Manson was relevant.
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