BuzzersonKillwell Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 I bought with my wife before we were married.... ...but had been dating for three or four years. I'd make sure that documents covers all the bases. Not just how the equity gets split, if there is any, but how the mortgage gets paid in the event of a separation, etc. Plus, without some type of legal binding partnership (i.e. a marriage) how would you even go about proving the relationship status. If I were you I'd do another apartment or condo for a year. 12 months could save you a few years of headache. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 fixed They pay my rent and keep records on my shelves, you lay off of sprint, haha KennyFuckingPowers 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 Ry, sounds like that chicky is rad, but not a long term kind of gal for you if that's what you're looking for. That doesn't mean she can't change and get her shit together, if she wants to of course. Maybe she knows she's kind of a mess, but doesn't care right now. I'm 29 and still act like a giant child, I make spontaneous brash decisions, but I'm fully aware of it and I know I'm not a long term commitment guy yet, nor do I want to be. Maybe just feel it out a little bit longer and see what feels right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 Ry, sounds like that chicky is rad, but not a long term kind of gal for you if that's what you're looking for. That doesn't mean she can't change and get her shit together, if she wants to of course. Maybe she knows she's kind of a mess, but doesn't care right now. I'm 29 and still act like a giant child, I make spontaneous brash decisions, but I'm fully aware of it and I know I'm not a long term commitment guy yet, nor do I want to be. Maybe just feel it out a little bit longer and see what feels right. Shit, I'm pretty much a mess too. It just seems like mess plus mess is an ugly formula. It's strange, because my last relationship was with a girl who almost had her shit too much intact. Maybe that's part of the hesitation? My previous real relationship was with a mess.. and it was one of the hardest aspects for me to deal with. But again, she is rad. One portion of this I haven't mentioned is the physical side. I'm attracted to her, but she's not "conventionally pretty". Maybe I'm an asshole and still like to believe that I deserve a knockout, but I don't want to be that asshole. Goes beyond that too.. not the best kisser, and she can't seem to avoid her teeth getting involved when "performing". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kgry Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 I just got a call from the ex's Mom, she's in the hospital again. Same thing, bi polar, guess she threatened her grandma. I'm really struggling with this because I don't understand why she just turned like this all of a sudden. It was a month ago this all started. I guess the "fml" thread got deleted so there is a back story here. Anyway, I feel weird about caring about an ex and asking her family for updates but I don't wish this shit on anyone and just want her to be better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 Bipolar disorder is tough. Most people that have loved ones with it often ask the same thing you do, 'where did this come from?' All I could suggest is to be there for her if you want to be. Has she considered meds? They make a world of difference, without them I'd be a completely different person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kgry Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 She's on meds but I know her and she's not the type to except the fact that she has a real disease. Her Mom also has bi polar so getting info from her isn't any better and her family hasn't returned my emails so far. I'd like to visit her and reassure her everything will be OK as a friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 I fully support that idea, that really could mean the world to her. It took me years and years to finally accept that I was severely bipolar, and that it was a serious disorder that I needed to help to get control over. This didn't happen until I was 26 or so, so you never know, this may be a wake up call for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smash2pieces Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 She's on meds but I know her and she's not the type to except the fact that she has a real disease. Her Mom also has bi polar so getting info from her isn't any better and her family hasn't returned my emails so far. I'd like to visit her and reassure her everything will be OK as a friend. I've never known anyone who is bipolar or anything related to that, but I would agree with Ronnie and say that you should do what you feel comfortable with. Even if that is support at a distance, like being in contact with family members through email. I think that it's certain to say that someone going through that will be able to use all of the help/support that they are offered. I think you'll figure out the right thing to do, you seem like a pretty good guy that you're considering it, and not completely turning your back on her which would be the easy thing to do in the situation. Just my 2 cents Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hobohunter48 Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 So last sunday my sister had a couple of her friends at my family's super bowl hang out/party, and one of them I had never met before but we seemed to kind of click from what little interaction we had. I had to work so I was only there from the end of the power outage until the end. But she's super cute and sarcastic and doesn't like Big Bang Theory, which is how we initially clicked because we were the only two people there who don't like it. So Friday night I'm hanging out with her and my sister just to get to know her a bit better and see how things go. It kinda freaks me out though because I've never pursued a girl, it's always been that they've taken interest in me before I actually talk to them and date them. But that hasn't worked out ever so I'm trying out the manning up route, but I'm super nervous about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
controlthebleeding Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 So last sunday my sister had a couple of her friends at my family's super bowl hang out/party, and one of them I had never met before but we seemed to kind of click from what little interaction we had. I had to work so I was only there from the end of the power outage until the end. But she's super cute and sarcastic and doesn't like Big Bang Theory, which is how we initially clicked because we were the only two people there who don't like it. So Friday night I'm hanging out with her and my sister just to get to know her a bit better and see how things go. It kinda freaks me out though because I've never pursued a girl, it's always been that they've taken interest in me before I actually talk to them and date them. But that hasn't worked out ever so I'm trying out the manning up route, but I'm super nervous about it. at least you'll have your sister there as your wingman/woman. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hobohunter48 Posted February 7, 2013 Share Posted February 7, 2013 Yeah I'm glad that she's willing to help me out on this one, she's pretty cool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 Long, stupid, story short... shorter than the crap I just typed out... Trained in the Hartford branch of my company today for the second time. And after working with a very good looking girl, I couldn't tell if she was sending signals or just being overly friendly. How in the world would one go about that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unwound Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 So last sunday my sister had a couple of her friends at my family's super bowl hang out/party, and one of them I had never met before but we seemed to kind of click from what little interaction we had. I had to work so I was only there from the end of the power outage until the end. But she's super cute and sarcastic and doesn't like Big Bang Theory, which is how we initially clicked because we were the only two people there who don't like it. So Friday night I'm hanging out with her and my sister just to get to know her a bit better and see how things go. It kinda freaks me out though because I've never pursued a girl, it's always been that they've taken interest in me before I actually talk to them and date them. But that hasn't worked out ever so I'm trying out the manning up route, but I'm super nervous about it. Just have fun man. With your Sis there it should be pretty easy to breeze through conversation, and if you feel like it could get awkward (emphasis on feel) then you can dash without repercussions. Or better yet, if you play it right, you could leave early with her wanting more. Most importantly? HAVE FUN! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abovetheearth Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 Long, stupid, story short... shorter than the crap I just typed out... Trained in the Hartford branch of my company today for the second time. And after working with a very good looking girl, I couldn't tell if she was sending signals or just being overly friendly. How in the world would one go about that? You gotta wait it out. But not that long. Get to know her personality and mannerisms a bit more. Then you'll be able to tell flirting from friendly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjb2k1 Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 also remember the whole "don't shit where you eat" thing. proceed with caution. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 well the thing is that i really have no reason to ever visit that office now. we're basically just two people working for the same company.. not co-workers by any means. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuzzersonKillwell Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 Rump slaps are business casual. Try it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 Look her up in the office directory, leave her an awkward and charming voicemail... You're set Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
withengineheart Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 Any other bartenders often drink at the bar they work at? Definitely realizing I should distance myself for a while in fear of the impending 'don't shit where you eat' scenario. Those discounts though.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kgry Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 Any other bartenders often drink at the bar they work at? I'm not sure if it's a law in Illinois or what but the bartenders at the bar I used to go to like every other day drank shots all the time. Half were drunk, which presents the problem of serving liquor while drunk and making bad calls on who is too drunk to serve. And they got busted by the police. Shut the whole bar down. Might be just a county law. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 Though I don't work at a bar, I used to be a regular at the same bar (awesome people, rad jukebox), and I found that it was a bad idea to do anything with anyone at that bar. It led to a couple of awkward scenarios which led me to never be interested in a girl there. Side story: once that porn star Burning Angel chick Jessie Lee was hanging out there (I guess she was doing a dancing tour or something), I still kick myself for not offering to buy her a drink. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
withengineheart Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 To clarify: drinking when off the clock. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 i figured that's what you meant. i was at a bar last night, and the smokin' redhead with the giant boobies that works there was drinking off the clock. alas, i was way too much of a pussy to do anything about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted February 8, 2013 Share Posted February 8, 2013 i figured that's what you meant. i was at a bar last night, and the smokin' redhead with the giant boobies that works there was drinking off the clock. alas, i was way too much of a pussy to do anything about it. For shame! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts