Guest genericinsight Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Would you find it creepy if a girl came up to you and said something like "Hey I've seen you around" or "I've noticed you", basically subtly implying you find them attractive or something? I.e., how do you talk to someone you keep seeing? I keep seeing this guy at some shows and well, yeah, I don't know what to say. I suck. What do I do, how do I go about this without being creepy or weird/stalker-ish? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zac Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 It would definitely depend on how sketchy the girl looked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest genericinsight Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Maybe I should just start a conversation and leave out that I've seen him around... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desensitizedbyu Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 What he's trying to say is, let's see some pictures of you. But really, I love it when a girl makes a move. I would be flattered if someone said I've noticed you. Go with a simple Hey, I've seen you at some of the shows I've been going to.. blah blah blah. Icebreaker is set up for you, really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adamlikesmusic Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 For all you know, he's thinking the same thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desensitizedbyu Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 He probably is. I definitely notice the same people when I go to shows. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest genericinsight Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 What he's trying to say is, let's see some pictures of you. But really, I love it when a girl makes a move. I would be flattered if someone said I've noticed you. Go with a simple Hey, I've seen you at some of the shows I've been going to.. blah blah blah. Icebreaker is set up for you, really. Actually the first time I saw him was on the subway a couple of weeks ago. That's part of why it may be creepy... I was sitting across from him and I may have been kind of obvious about the fact that I was checking him out and he even got off at the same stop as me. He definitely looked like a "show-going" type at the time but I didn't know if he even lived here or not, so I was kinda surprised when I saw him the other night. I didn't even have a chance to think about what to say because a friend of mine made me leave as soon as it was over (and it was a small house show so its not like there were even a ton of people there to begin with). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desensitizedbyu Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 I would just flat out say something, whether you saw him here or there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
adamlikesmusic Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 I personally wouldn't find it weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottheisel Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Find him on myspace and send him a message. That way it's still somewhat impersonal and he can choose to act on it if he wants, thus making it a little less awkward than walking up to him, introducing yourself and then having him blow you off. I've had a few girls introduce themselves to me this way and I kinda like it -- it makes me feel pretty good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostatsea Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Try this: I noticed you noticing me, I wanted to put you on notice that I noticed you too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
partysmasher Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Find him on myspace and send him a message. That way it's still somewhat impersonal and he can choose to act on it if he wants, thus making it a little less awkward than walking up to him, introducing yourself and then having him blow you off. I've had a few girls introduce themselves to me this way and I kinda like it -- it makes me feel pretty good. how would you find someone on myspace when you don't know their name? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stallsstanding Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Say to him, hey, what did you make of 'such and such' show? It was great/bad wasn't it. Blah Blah You seem to go to a lot in this area, you from around here? Ta-daaa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
casey Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Say to him, hey, what did you make of 'such and such' show? It was great/bad wasn't it.Blah Blah You seem to go to a lot in this area, you from around here? Ta-daaa That's a good one. Personally, and I think most of the guys I know, are stoked when they don't have to do the legwork on new conversations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xlovecolouredx Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 i love this thread,genericinsight. and i will ask my girlfriend for advice and bring her words for you.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brentoage Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 just get some guts and speak to him in person. don't do it on myspace if you can avoid it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danthemjfan23 Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 definitely make the first move. there's nothing hotter than a girl who knows what she wants and goes and gets it. clearly you have the same taste in music, so if nothing instantly comes from it sexually (which i'd be surprised if it didn't, unless he's dating somebody), you could at least start a friendship with him and when he sees how cool you are then you hook up. it's a win-win-win. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jhulud Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Next time you see him, asking him something to the effect of "Hey! Weren't you at the such-and-such show? I think I saw you there. Correct me if I'm wrong."...and let it flow from there. Can't hurt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flood Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 i told you girl, i'm married Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ericxthexred Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 i told you girl, i'm married but we all know that its simply for show dude Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flood Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 thats just because you don't feel comfortable going public with our relationship jackass! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dante3000 Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Go up to him and say, "I'M TIRED OF YOU FOLLOWING ME EVERYWHERE! Quit stalking me!" He'll act surprised and probably apologetic and say he doesn't know what you're talking about. Then be like, "My bad. Can I take you out to coffee to make it up to you?" 60% of the time it works everytime. And it's odd how you don't notice someone until you really notice them and then you see them everywhere. There's a girl named Dani around here who I met at a record store and since then I've seen her at like 5 shows, but I never noticed her before then. Sometimes it just takes a nudge to get on someones radar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
devilstrombone Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 I would probably find it less creepy if they started a small conversation and then mentioned that they went to a show or event. Then I would say I was there too and then a common bond is presented. Later you can mention about seeing me all the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rtw88 Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 I don't think it's weird at all. In high school I always used to pass this girl in between classes, and halfway into the year she told me she sees me everyday and always likes the bands on the shirts I wear, and we ended up becoming chaps. As far as I know everyone likes to be noticed. I'd just tell him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lokithelion Posted October 15, 2008 Share Posted October 15, 2008 Don't do Myspace. If you see him at a show talk to him. I agree "weren't you at ..... show" is a good line, but don't come on like you're hitting on him. Just be a cool ass lady who goes to shows, runs a rad podcast, and shit like that. Snagging dudes under the context of friends is awesome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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