almightyseancore Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 i consider this guy a really good friend, because years ago we were, but i haven't seen him much in the past two years. he got really bad off on drugs, and i kinda shut him out of my life. she was with this guy for almost 2 years, but he also treated her like shit. she broke up with him over a month ago because she's dealt with way too much from him and got sick of it. i don't see him being in my life much when he gets out anyway, so i'm not too worried about it. there's a part of me that knows i should probably feel like a jerk, but i'm actually interested in her, and that interest seems to overpower my worry of how he'd feel, because he fucked that relationship up on his own, and she's free to make her own choices. i don't see this becoming a full blown relationship. it's just something that's nice. and she's really, really rad. so yeah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dashhax Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 i consider this guy a really good friend, because years ago we were, but i haven't seen him much in the past two years. he got really bad off on drugs, and i kinda shut him out of my life. she was with this guy for almost 2 years, but he also treated her like shit. she broke up with him over a month ago because she's dealt with way too much from him and got sick of it. i don't see him being in my life much when he gets out anyway, so i'm not too worried about it. there's a part of me that knows i should probably feel like a jerk, but i'm actually interested in her, and that interest seems to overpower my worry of how he'd feel, because he fucked that relationship up on his own, and she's free to make her own choices. i don't see this becoming a full blown relationship. it's just something that's nice. and she's really, really rad. so yeah. I'm glad things are getting better for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 Great news Sean...as far as your new lady-friend, just go with it and see what happens. Anyone who has a problem with the situation can/should be told to eat a dick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marc32137 Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 You were the bigger man in this case so good for you. Maybe I'm making assumptions but fooling around with a friends recent ex of a really good friend while he is in jail just sounds like a different situation than a college girlfriend. How long were you with the girl? I'm sure that makes a difference too. If it's months it is a different story than years. In my case, the girl and friend were together a couple years then off for a couple months. I thought I could just make it OK. I couldn't. Started getting from other friends "do what you want, but I can't hang out with the two of you together cause I don't support your decision" and other general uncomfortableness like that. After the girl and I broke up I was able to patch things up with the friend (we don't hang out or anything, but since it is the same circle of friends we can all be cool). I just go with a 100% FIRM no messing around with friend's exes policy now. Too many other girls out there to deal with that drama. We were only together for a few months and I was the one who wanted to break-up. Nothing personal towards her, I was just going though other personal shit at the time. So when my friend asked me about asking her out, I was actually kinda glad. So yeah, totally different circumstances than Sean's case, I know. And if this guy was a douche to the girl, he doesn't have the right to be pissed off if she found someone better, no matter who it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebiglebowski Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 Just got a wedding invite in the mail. Go solo or search for a date? I know what I've done in the past. Just wondering what others opinions are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 i don't have nearly enough experiences with weddings, but i really couldn't imagine bringing someone who i wasn't already established with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Good for you Sean! In regards to the whole friend thing, one of my best friends is dating a girl that I was seeing (mind you, only for a really short time), but he had the courtesy to ask in advance if it would upset me. They are still together, and they're awesome at being a couple; however, I have had friends that didn't have that same courtesy, and because of that, they can go eat a bag of dicks. Just tread carefully my brotha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noodle Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Just got a wedding invite in the mail. Go solo or search for a date? I know what I've done in the past. Just wondering what others opinions are. solo. however, i don't know the age of the people getting married. most of my friends are in the 28-32 range, each time one of their weddings comes up, I fly solo all day because others in that age group will be there. i have no problem making friends and having a meaningful overnight relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbruise Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I say solo as well, there is bound to be all kinds of solo tail. Nom Nom Nom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebiglebowski Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 It's my cousin. He's in his mid 30s. I'm 26. So it's reasonably close but not ideal. She comes from a super catholic family. My cousin had to convert and he still can't live with her. Her parents won't allow it. So he has to pay $500 a month for an apartment even though she has a house with more than enough room for both of them and the wedding is in May. He almost bailed because of the family but stuck it out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noodle Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 . She comes from a super catholic family. find a date. find two. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Update on the girl situation (because I know you're all dying to know, he said sarcastically). So I'm absolutely head over heals for this girl. She's been in New Orleans with friends for the last few days and we've been texting one another non stop, seriously, from the point we wake up until she falls asleep at night. We've both acknowledged it's pretty crazy how quickly we've connected and how it feels like we've known each other a lot longer than what we have. I know this thread is mostly for advice, but I'm more happy than I have been in a long long time and I just really want to tell it to anyone I can right now. Also, she's really really fucking cute. lonesomexloveus, noodle, bluedeni and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
almightyseancore Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Good for you Sean! In regards to the whole friend thing, one of my best friends is dating a girl that I was seeing (mind you, only for a really short time), but he had the courtesy to ask in advance if it would upset me. They are still together, and they're awesome at being a couple; however, I have had friends that didn't have that same courtesy, and because of that, they can go eat a bag of dicks. Just tread carefully my brotha. you know, if i saw it coming i would have. our intention last night was nothing more than to just hang out. just got late, and things happened. neither of us expected it. if it's going to become a relationship, i will more than likely mention something to him. how bad would it be so have a friend visit you in jail to ask if he can have your woman? she is coming over again tonight. sounds like she's gettin' all dolled up this time too. i'm far more nervous now than i was last night, because i don't want her to think i'm 'expecting' more. but if it happens, well that's just fine and dandy, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nobodybrokeurheart Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 sean's putting his wiener in a lady right now. yayayyayayayyaya. scottheisel, popscratch and almightyseancore 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Cue up that R. Kelly duuuude! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nobodybrokeurheart Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 ronnie's gonna make sweet love down by the fire. with his wiener. in a lady. yayayayyayayayyayayay. popscratch 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Everybody is getting laid and that is awesome Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nobodybrokeurheart Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 the only play i get is the same old drunk girl ramble about how if she were a lesbian i'd be at the top of her list and blah blah blah. every. damn. week. that ain't gettin ya grl laid. shoot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbruise Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Ugh, fuck that. At least you weren't getting eye fucked from across the bar, put in almost 2 hours of work, just to have her completely forget about you because you didn't have her drug of choice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottheisel Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 i don't have nearly enough experiences with weddings, but i really couldn't imagine bringing someone who i wasn't already established with. My wife's and my first actual date was my sister's wedding. She knew no one else there besides me. I think it worked out okay. lonesomexloveus 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sinisterkidd Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 the only play i get is the same old drunk girl ramble about how if she were a lesbian i'd be at the top of her list and blah blah blah. every. damn. week. that ain't gettin ya grl laid. shoot. Make her a lesbian! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 can't decide which of the last 2 posts to give my last like of the day to Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nobodybrokeurheart Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Make her a lesbian! fruitless endeavors. seriously. i would play the game and do the drunk straight girl chase back in the day...... but fuck it. i'm too old for this shit. you want some lady sex or you don't. come get it. sinisterkidd and ronniegwilliams 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KennyFuckingPowers Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Well, as of now, 90% chance I will be a resident of Tempe, AZ this summer/fall. Better part is the girl is moving in with me. So amped. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonesomexloveus Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 only bring a date to a wedding if it's a definite plus one situation. a lot of people plan for only a certain number, so i'd double check if a date is welcome before asking someone! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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