sjb2k1 Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 shit, i missed some good stuff. sorry matt, that really sucks dude Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Finally had a discussion with her. Its more about her personal problems and how she doesnt feel ok with herself and doesnt feel its fair to me to put me through the suffering of her working through the things. Basically Im going to leave her alone for awhile and just do my own thing. But I wont be acting as if I was single in regards to other females (as she wont either). Been there buddy, I'm sorry. Sometimes a little space works everything out though, it allows two people to realize how much they care for and miss and rely on one another. You never know, it may be the best thing for the long term. KennyFuckingPowers 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Finally had a discussion with her. Its more about her personal problems and how she doesnt feel ok with herself and doesnt feel its fair to me to put me through the suffering of her working through the things. Basically Im going to leave her alone for awhile and just do my own thing. But I wont be acting as if I was single in regards to other females (as she wont either). I've used the same excuse she has. point blank, if someone wants to be with you, they will be with you, no matter what. This is going to sound harsh and I hate to say it but I think you should absolutely consider yourself single and start working on getting over her. She's keeping you on the back burner and it seems like it's making you miserable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Madie's probably got the right idea on this one. Your girl's explanation sounds like a very cliché it's not you, it's me kind of excuse. If she's aware of all that you're offering, and wants to be with you, she'd try anything and everything to cope with her "personal problems" without pushing you away. Instead, it's sounding like she wants to use said problems to create distance and possibly wiggle away. But like Ronnie said; whether that's the case or not, the best thing you can do in either instance is give her the time and space she's asking for. If it is meant to be, that distance will magnify all the qualities you bring to the table, which will only benefit you in the long run. And if it's not meant to be, I imagine that will become obvious much sooner than later. Either way, it's a shitty situation. Sorry to hear you're stuck in it. My biggest piece of advice is to let it pan out as it may. Try to take your mind off it until anything significant develops. You'll drive yourself up a wall if you try to over-analyze everything, or play out countless theoretical scenarios. Take a breather and step back for a bit -- you just may find some clarity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
controlthebleeding Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 I've used the same excuse she has. point blank, if someone wants to be with you, they will be with you, no matter what. This is going to sound harsh and I hate to say it but I think you should absolutely consider yourself single and start working on getting over her. She's keeping you on the back burner and it seems like it's making you miserable. this. derek has some nice words you'd get from your best friend to sugarcoat it (you know, the little glimmers of hope), but madie's words are the harsh reality. you're basically single. start getting over it and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KennyFuckingPowers Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 Chad Ochocinco once said on twitter to someone asking him about his situation with his wife when they first got divorced and said "You ever throw a boomerang? Same concept." Haha as bad as it sounds I keep thinking about that and kinda using that approach with it. It did work for him, and he beat the shit out of her haha. I feel as if she will come back. I think there was just a lack of communication and understanding the past week that we misunderstood some of the things we said and did. We cleared it up and Im hoping that itll work out in the end. I kinda cant help but hope that with the way I feel about her you know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 here's my advice. if you believe that she wants this space, and at one time or another, put in the effort to make it work- then let her have it. be a single person. just don't throw yourself out there as if you need to meet someone or get laid immediately. until you two have come to the conclusion that it's not going anywhere, i wouldn't involve myself with any other women. it's not going to make the distance any easier... would only complicate things if she found out about it... and if it turns out that she's out with other guys, then she's just an asshole, and she's not worth your time. at this point, your heart would undoubtedly be shattered to pieces, but you would still be the guy who stood up for the woman he loved; having done nothing wrong except for loving the wrong woman. i'm just throwing out the exact opposite of the way i handled a few breakups. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
circuit bored records Posted January 2, 2013 Share Posted January 2, 2013 The only thing I remember from the last couple pages is sandpaper handjobs Yowza 213041284s and ronniegwilliams 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluedeni Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 Sandpaper handjobs remind me of Hanzo the Razor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
circuit bored records Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 Sandpaper handjobs remind me of The Human Centipede II, what with the sandpaper handjob scene and all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 exactly, that's what I was thinking as well, shudder Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
controlthebleeding Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 what about urethral play with a dremel tool and a 1/8" sanding drum... seeeeexxxyyyy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KennyFuckingPowers Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 here's my advice. if you believe that she wants this space, and at one time or another, put in the effort to make it work- then let her have it. be a single person. just don't throw yourself out there as if you need to meet someone or get laid immediately. until you two have come to the conclusion that it's not going anywhere, i wouldn't involve myself with any other women. it's not going to make the distance any easier... would only complicate things if she found out about it... and if it turns out that she's out with other guys, then she's just an asshole, and she's not worth your time. at this point, your heart would undoubtedly be shattered to pieces, but you would still be the guy who stood up for the woman he loved; having done nothing wrong except for loving the wrong woman. i'm just throwing out the exact opposite of the way i handled a few breakups. Im convinced you and I are the same person. Hahah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 your wants list tells me otherwise Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KennyFuckingPowers Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 your wants list tells me otherwise hahaha touche Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cymbalism15 Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 your wants list tells me otherwise KennyFuckingPowers 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
avery Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 I thought my wife was drunk enough for pornstar sex, but then she threw up. I told her not to worry about it and she went into the shower. We continued there and then she was pissed after I came on her chest. I let her go to sleep. i laughed at this. ...because i totally barfed a few times on NYE and we still got it on good later on. probably not until about 3 hrs after i got sick though. i think i came like 3 times and i'm glad how loud i was didn't wake the toddler up. i was definitely still drunk enough to do things i won't write about in here though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GradedOnACurve Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 I always forget why there are so many August babies. November too... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hipsterasfolk Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 Sounds like folks need to take a lesson or two from Gyp Rosetti. I got a nice alligator belt, or rather a fancy necklace?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 i laughed at this. ...because i totally barfed a few times on NYE and we still got it on good later on. probably not until about 3 hrs after i got sick though. i think i came like 3 times and i'm glad how loud i was didn't wake the toddler up. i was definitely still drunk enough to do things i won't write about in here though. Sometimes I like to tell my coworkers about awful pornstar things I did the night before just to see how uncomfortable the other two dudes I work with get. Have no shame brother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GradedOnACurve Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 Sister Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abovetheearth Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 fuck yeah! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 3, 2013 Share Posted January 3, 2013 i laughed at this. ...because i totally barfed a few times on NYE and we still got it on good later on. probably not until about 3 hrs after i got sick though. i think i came like 3 times and i'm glad how loud i was didn't wake the toddler up. i was definitely still drunk enough to do things i won't write about in here though. i want to give you an Internet high five. get it girl! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KennyFuckingPowers Posted January 4, 2013 Share Posted January 4, 2013 I officially hate social media. Last night I saw her do some shit on twitter, leading me to rage tweet about it (I need to stop fucking doing that). She saw it, as I hoped. And sent me a message in the morning. I wasnt expecting it. She said that it was just a joke and when this fucking tool sent her something back she was like "what the fuck". She apologized if it made me upset. I apologized to her for the rage tweets and told her she had to see where I was coming from and not knowing it was a joke. She understood. However once again, I over react and lose sleep over something stupid thanks to social media. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KennyFuckingPowers Posted January 4, 2013 Share Posted January 4, 2013 Because of this and other situations that Ive acted out in anger and said things I dont mean before thinking, I have decided to try and get professional help. I lashed out on her last week and I knew it hurt her. It was the first time I ever said anything that pissed her off/hurt her. But thats when I actually admitted I have a problem with that shit. Has anyone ever had that happen to them? Not my exact situation but you hurt someone you loved and decided you needed to make a change? Not for just them, but yourself and the other people in your life? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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