companyinkrecs Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Interested in what the VC community thinks about this situation.... The story goes, my girlfriend planned to move to the San Fernando Valley two years ago for work and was looking for apartments/roommates. She looked at an available room in Woodland Hills from craigslist and after communicating with the potential roommate, she decided that because of the location of the apartment, it was at least worth looking at. When she met her potential roommate face to face, a 33 year old Indian male, it quickly became apparent it was not much of a fit. (Obviously, we hadn't met yet). As I said, this was two years ago, and that one day remains the only communication she has had with this person face to face. Since that day, this guy has persistently called, texted, emailed, facebooked, tweeted, stumbled upon, and enganged in any other form of cyber stalking you can come up with. He's dug up journal posts she made from high school and commented on them (I know because I found them as I searched for him). The subject matter of each attempt at contact is always a creepy romantic wooing of sorts. At this stage, it has remained creepy and annoying, but nonthreatening nor violent. We've made one reply via email to establish a paper trail that she does not wish to be contacted any more. But the communication hasn't stopped. Naturally she doesn't want to deal with changing her email/phone number, but even if we did we now live close to the apartment she visited (currently in Encino) and I obviously don't want this to be a situation where we considered it something petty only to have it escalate when its too late. I'm curious if there is anything else to do legally since the police have said we can't file a TRO because he hasn't been "stalkery" enough. Most importantly, where is the best place to hide his body if I have to go all Dexter on him eventually? I don't have a boat. Thanks, Joe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PostVillasBlues2K Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 It's the San Fernando Valley. You could probably stuff his body halfway into a post box and it wouldn't look out of place. all joking aside, that's a shitty situation. sorry to hear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
companyinkrecs Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 It's the San Fernando Valley. You could probably stuff his body halfway into a post box and it wouldn't look out of place. Valid point. Will consider. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
collectivemike Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Eat him? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ajxd Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Have sex with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whoshotthefrog Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Bury him somewhere out in the desert or find a grave that has been dug, but a casket hasn't been laid yet, and drop him there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dm Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 ever considered to leav social medias? rejoine etc. this whole shit is crazy. maybe stalk him too? anonymous of course - but he´ll know who you are and can´t prove it i´d give it a try. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
almightyseancore Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 could probably stuff his body halfway into a post box and it wouldn't look out of place. did you watch the Death Comes To Town re-airs on ifc the other day? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jerseydave77 Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 I had a roommate who was stalked while I was in College. It was an ex-boyfriend who came from out of town to follow. First lesson: Don't make a plan of action yourself, consult a professional or third party. The actions of each stalker vary apparently so there are different ways of dealing with it. Second: Follow the recommendation and document what you can. Finally, if there is a feeling of a threat don't risk your safely and involve the police. It was a tremendous headache. I had to answer the phone for months and tell this guy not to call. I had to escort her to classes because he'd be waiting. When spotted we had to contact the campus police. With enough persistence and perseverance he eventually quit. He was kicked out of and banned from a number of properties. Honestly, ours involved physical contact and ended pretty peacefully by comparison to a lot of other cases. Best of luck man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
companyinkrecs Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 That sounds way worse Dave, glad it turned out okay. thanks for the advice. Sticking to documenting things for now. And yes, she's blocked him on all social media outlets except email, because we want to at least monitor the communication in case we ever need it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
companyinkrecs Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 Eat him? [insert joke about Indian food in a creative and funny yet non-offensive way] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamover Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 [insert joke about Indian food in a creative and funny yet non-offensive way] Tikka Masala always gives me heartburn. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Hundred Fifty-Two Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 I'd just go on his pages and harass him. Post on his page everyday that he is a stalker. He will probably get embarrassed that he is being publicly called-out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
companyinkrecs Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 I'd just go on his pages and harass him. Post on his page everyday that he is a stalker. He will probably get embarrassed that he is being publicly called-out. Tried, but I can't find him anywhere. He's a graduate student at UCLA though, so there's a lot at stake for him if it gets serious. As silly as it seems at this stage, we've all seen too many news reports of how this can become a real concern in a hurry, so I don't want to push him as I know nothing about this person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Hundred Fifty-Two Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Put up flyers around his campus and more specifically the department he is in if he does anything more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
companyinkrecs Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 Put up flyers around his campus and more specifically the department he is in if he does anything more. This! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sjb2k1 Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 yeah i would not engage the guy past "please do not contact me" and just document when he goes all stalkery edit: but maaaaan public shaming like that would be so tempting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kouka Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 why don't you text him back (from your gf's phone) and ask to meet in person.. in a public place, of course. tell him she is not interested and the repeated attempts are not appreciated. be polite, but when it comes down to it, tell him he needs to back the fuck down. BACK THE FUCK DOWN. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
One Hundred Fifty-Two Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Or get him to send nudes and then send them to his dean, and then post them here. almightyseancore, rudeboydh and smash2pieces 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
companyinkrecs Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 why don't you text him back (from your gf's phone) and ask to meet in person.. in a public place, of course. tell him she is not interested and the repeated attempts are not appreciated. be polite, but when it comes down to it, tell him he needs to back the fuck down. BACK THE FUCK DOWN. Sure, this is a possibility, but it is also a possibility that he will stab me with a sharp object. I am the "problem" that prevents him from being with my girlfriend, his one and only someone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PostVillasBlues2K Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 feed him to *reddit fixed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yocaseycasey Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 PM me his address, and his phone number, and his school information. I'll take care of this. Seriously. Well, it won't be taken care of, but he will be INCREDIBLY confused about things he suddenly receives in the mail. agaetisbyrjun 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
companyinkrecs Posted October 23, 2012 Author Share Posted October 23, 2012 PM me his address, and his phone number, and his school information. I'll take care of this. Seriously. Well, it won't be taken care of, but he will be INCREDIBLY confused about things he suddenly receives in the mail. I like it, will do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noodle Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 Wow... close old blogs, or lock them. I would go straight for the restraining order, though. I dont want to see you guys on this... http://www.cbsnews.com/video/48hours/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yocaseycasey Posted October 23, 2012 Share Posted October 23, 2012 I'm going to save boogers and toenails for a week. SO excited to have a reason to do this. "CASEY! QUIT PICKING YOUR NOSE!" "It's OK Em... It's for a good cause. This Indian dude has it coming..." selfreliable, sjb2k1, rudeboydh and 3 others 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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