radiatorhums Posted July 4, 2014 Share Posted July 4, 2014 Time to get involved. Anyone who is emotionally manipulative like that needs to be cut out like a cancerous tumor. I know that's probably the last thing she wants, but assert yourself man. I'm going to see how this weekend goes, but she did say she didn't think they'd be talking anymore after this. I'm hoping that's the case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
codeine Posted July 4, 2014 Share Posted July 4, 2014 Yeah, I didn't want to be the one to say it, but it sounds like you might have to get in this guy's face. Pull some white knight shit. Prob a good idea to make sure the lady is cool with it first tho... and I would be careful, buddy already sounds like he's in stalker-ish territory, and has a bit of a screw loose... don't want him coming around vandalizing your shit or possibly doing even more bizarre stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiatorhums Posted July 4, 2014 Share Posted July 4, 2014 Yeah, I didn't want to be the one to say it, but it sounds like you might have to get in this guy's face. Pull some white knight shit. Prob a good idea to make sure the lady is cool with it first tho... and I would be careful, buddy already sounds like he's in stalker-ish territory, and has a bit of a screw loose... don't want him coming around vandalizing your shit or possibly doing even more bizarre stuff. It's crossed my mind, but I don't think that would make things any better at this point. If anything, I think it could make things worse (and possibly damage my relationship). I'm the first guy she's dated since they broke up about a year ago, so I don't think she quite realized what his reaction would be when it happened. I think she's realized that they can't remain friends if she wants to be able to date people or whatever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
codeine Posted July 4, 2014 Share Posted July 4, 2014 It's crossed my mind, but I don't think that would make things any better at this point. If anything, I think it could make things worse (and possibly damage my relationship). I'm the first guy she's dated since they broke up about a year ago, so I don't think she quite realized what his reaction would be when it happened. I think she's realized that they can't remain friends if she wants to be able to date people or whatever. Yeah I hear ya... yr prob right. Good to keep a cool head. Dude sounds like a knob tho, makin yr lady all distressed/cryin n whatnot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiatorhums Posted July 5, 2014 Share Posted July 5, 2014 Yeah I hear ya... yr prob right. Good to keep a cool head. Dude sounds like a knob tho, makin yr lady all distressed/cryin n whatnot. I barely know him, but I'm getting that impression too. I didn't ask why they broke up in the first place, but I'm guessing it's due to shit like this. I'm ready for the weekend to be over, I'm slowly starting to stress out about her being gone all weekend. But I think that's mainly because my imagination runs fucking wild when I have nothing to do, which is the case right now. Trying to keep as busy as possible, it helps. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jase Posted July 5, 2014 Share Posted July 5, 2014 Mr J Rawks, I'd suggest her getting her own netflix account sooner rather than later. He'll be using that as some sort of lifeline between the too, and maybe even thinking it's a way for her to show she still cares or wants him in her life. Which, is fine in a platonic way if everyone is on the same page. But it seems like this dude is in another book. I'd also not get in his face about it. Just flick him a text, email or call. Let him know that you are going to treat her well, and that could he just back off a little. Even suggest hanging out sometime in the near future as a way to get rid of him for now. Then space the hangs further and further apart. Don't get aggressive. It's lame, and should only ever be a last resort codeine 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
codeine Posted July 5, 2014 Share Posted July 5, 2014 I barely know him, but I'm getting that impression too. I didn't ask why they broke up in the first place, but I'm guessing it's due to shit like this. I'm ready for the weekend to be over, I'm slowly starting to stress out about her being gone all weekend. But I think that's mainly because my imagination runs fucking wild when I have nothing to do, which is the case right now. Trying to keep as busy as possible, it helps. I hear ya on that, but don't let that imagination run amok, guy. Remember, there was a time when everyone didn't have cell phones and people survived. I totally get where you are comin form tho. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
codeine Posted July 5, 2014 Share Posted July 5, 2014 Mr J Rawks, I'd suggest her getting her own netflix account sooner rather than later. He'll be using that as some sort of lifeline between the too, and maybe even thinking it's a way for her to show she still cares or wants him in her life. Which, is fine in a platonic way if everyone is on the same page. But it seems like this dude is in another book. I'd also not get in his face about it. Just flick him a text, email or call. Let him know that you are going to treat her well, and that could he just back off a little. Even suggest hanging out sometime in the near future as a way to get rid of him for now. Then space the hangs further and further apart. Don't get aggressive. It's lame, and should only ever be a last resort Fucking solid advice, man. Well done. Next time I have a problem, I am going to ask myself... 'What Would Jase Do?' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jase Posted July 5, 2014 Share Posted July 5, 2014 HA! 9/10 times I'd get drunk and fall asleep in someones garden codeine 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiatorhums Posted July 5, 2014 Share Posted July 5, 2014 Thanks Jase, that's really solid advice. Right now I'm going to see where things are at the beginning of the week and play it by ear. The last thing she needs is two guys being nut bags, so I'm trying to keep a level head and not do anything irrational or impulsive (which is pretty unlike me anyway). I hear ya on that, but don't let that imagination run amok, guy. Remember, there was a time when everyone didn't have cell phones and people survived. I totally get where you are comin form tho. Haha, yeah. Stupid technology has somehow made life easier and more frustrating at the same time. I over think and let my imagination run wild for about everything, but I've gotten better at dismissing the thoughts. 9/10 times I'd get drunk and fall asleep in someones garden That cracked me up. jase and codeine 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
parkinglot Posted July 19, 2014 Share Posted July 19, 2014 Remember like a month + ago when I said that this girl had agreed to go for coffee with me and catch up, but then ignored me when I would ask her to go? Well, it took like a month and a half, but she texted me saying, "Coffee sometime this week? I'm serious though". lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roadmonkey Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 aaaand that's the end of that... My GF just broke up with me because she is isn't sure what she wants anymore. Over this past week she hung out with this dude from work and ended up getting a crush and kissing him. This caused her to think that she had cheated on me and felt really bad about everything. Also she said that she still doesn't feel that spark with us (which is weird cause in the sack... eh whatever). Anyways she confessed this all to me last night. I told her that having a crush on someone and drunkenly kissing them doesn't mean shit to me. People can be attracted to others and end up having these crushes, that's natural and doesn't mean shit, but I guess she felt otherwise plus that compounded with her present state of "I don't know what I'm doing with my life" didn't help sooo now I'm back on the menu girls. Fuck and my roommate's out of town for like 3 weeks starting in a couple weeks. I was hoping to have all of the sex. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 oh no!!!! that's the worst - i'm sorry road monkey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roadmonkey Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 oh no!!!! that's the worst - i'm sorry road monkey Thanks bro, This sucks it's the first time I've ever broken up with someone because we weren't not happy with each other. I get all the best closers these days... She said "I still love you and you are my favorite person. Maybe we can try again some time" (ie when she has her shit together... not holding my breath on that one). My ex wife previous to her told me "I still love you as a person, just not as a husband". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 "I love you but I'm not in love". If I ever break up with someone and I don't wanna be nice, I wanna say "it's not me, it's you" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-tess. Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Adult dating is weird. What world is this? I am unsure how to navigate. I've always been pretty well acquainted with old flings before dating them, so this is odd territory. Any words of advice to a girl going on a date for the first time in a long time? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Out of Breath Records Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Adult dating seems way more complicated than teen datin. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Family Friendly Rap God Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 I don't see how it can work again if it was so bad the first time around that you had to split. I have. My ex and I dated in HS for three years and we have been together again for two years now. The seven years inbetween relationships definitely helped. Especially maturity wise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Family Friendly Rap God Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Remember like a month + ago when I said that this girl had agreed to go for coffee with me and catch up, but then ignored me when I would ask her to go? Well, it took like a month and a half, but she texted me saying, "Coffee sometime this week? I'm serious though". lol No freaking way! Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
parkinglot Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Remember like a month + ago when I said that this girl had agreed to go for coffee with me and catch up, but then ignored me when I would ask her to go? Well, it took like a month and a half, but she texted me saying, "Coffee sometime this week? I'm serious though". lol This has now turned into us going to the Modest Mouse show on Thursday. Can't complain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-tess. Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Adult dating seems way more complicated than teen datin. That it is. And I hate texting interaction with someone I hardly know. What are the rules for that shit? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-tess. Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 This has now turned into us going to the Modest Mouse show on Thursday. Can't complain. Sounds fun to me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 That it is. And I hate texting interaction with someone I hardly know. What are the rules for that shit? When I lived with my girlfriends I would dictate their texts to guys. I was so good, dammit. My biggest piece of advice would be to not answer right away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-tess. Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 When I lived with my girlfriends I would dictate their texts to guys. I was so good, dammit. My biggest piece of advice would be to not answer right away. Ugh. I'm awful at this. If I'm interested, I act interested. So bad at the "game" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roadmonkey Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 Honestly the whole texting thing right off the bat is kinda a pain, call me a dinosaur, but I prefered to talk to a girl on the phone. Texting just makes the whole thing even start unreal. Like you are just another in a long line of texts. I say if it feels right then just do it, if not then don't worry about it. Texting, calling, whatever. If the other person has a hang up, that's their issue. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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