+hecollec+or Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 And maybe I'm alone on this...probably not...but I'm so tired of having to defend how I feel and my emotions and my honesty. This is who I am. Intensely emotional and full of feels at times, yes. But it's all honest always. I'm the same way man. I hate it, but it's also who I am. We must never apologize for being ourselves THE_James_Champ 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THE_James_Champ Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 I'm not really lonely, but the hug is DEFINITELY appreciated Juan! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maneatingcow Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Easiest way to never get hurt? Say fuck it and keep everyone far far far away. It works. Ha, this is me totally. I don't really view it as to much of a negative. My whole life I've never had close friends, I've never found the need to try and build those bonds. I will have what I'd call friendlies or acquaintences that will give me all the social interactions I can handle. It's a simple way to live a contented life. I don't feel the lows, but I don't have the highs either. The only time I regret my lack of a desire, or perhaps more accurately, lack or ability to build interpersonal bonds are in the romantic department. Dating is tough when you are a narcassistic sociopath with delusions of grandure. Sucks to here about all of your issues. I hope that things get better for y'all. At the very least y'all should be able to work as a support network for each other. Y'all are wonderful people and I wish ya' nothing but the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
llamaface Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Easiest way to never get hurt? Say fuck it and keep everyone far far far away. It works. I'm so lonely. This is how I am, basically. My mom's side of my family doesn't talk to me because I have a problem with her (and her wife, mostly). It's crazy to me that everyone else decided to not talk to me, but whatever... I just focus on the people that do want to be in my life and all that. I think we all need to get together and hug it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KingTacoMunster Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 I agree with yall. I used to feel crappy because I didn't keep in contact with my friends from school after graduation, because pretty much right after it, I got with my wife, then start a family, etc. But after a few years the crappy feeling went away after I realized that I shouldnt feel that way because none of them ever reached out to me. and after further thinking about it, I was the one who always did reach out/plan stuff when we were solid friends, unless they needed something. people suck. but in the long run you will find out that you didn't need them/youre better off without them. edit: this also applies to family, even parents, which totally sucks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+hecollec+or Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 I'm not really lonely, but the hug is DEFINITELY appreciated Juan! NOW U HAVE 2! THE_James_Champ 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soundofsilver Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 My best friend since I was 5 was killed in a car accident in '08, in our hometown. He was drunk. Flipped his car doing 55 mph over a raised set of railroad tracks. Since that time, my "group" has never, nor ever will be, the same. A few weddings later, including one between two members of the 'group', and I still don't participate in anything w them. I care about them, but I stay away. I got extremely tired of "reminiscing". Every time we got together, it was the same damn thing. Tony Soprano said it best - "Reminiscing is the lowest form of conversation" They all have kids, or are working on it. I have no interest in having that kind of relationship. Never wanted kids. Changes the dynamic of the 'group' when I can't walk up to one of them at a gathering, smoking a 'J', because the kids are around. They are stuck in a time of ten yrs ago, while I have moved waaaaay the fuck on. All they want to do is get drunk, because that's what parents do together. They give me shit, because I don't want to be around the same 'party' every 3 months. They get it. Now. Do I care? Nope. I have evolved. I'm very content at where I'm at now. I had to change scenery to do it, but I'm much better than I was. I have nothing but love for all of them, as we are somewhat scattered in locales in the U.S., and hardly ever see each other in a group. They all think I'm something I'm not. I wish they would move on, and evolve, themselves. My music keeps me sane. It keeps me grounded. Other than my GF, it's all I need right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soundofsilver Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 To all of you that are emotionally tired right now - Forge through. Keep your chin up. If your friends don't want to forgive and make up, move on. Do not waste a lot of energy that you don't have. You, must take care of you, first. @ Dave Grohl - thanks for the heads up on the headphones Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hippielauryn Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Sending all my good vibes to whomever needs it!!! People suck sometimes. I am also in the "Don't have many close friends" boat, and it's smooth sailing over here. I stay away from drama and people who make me feel like shit, plus I've never been good at being close to people. I am a much happier and more fulfilled person for it. All the friends I do have either live far away or they are friends that I made through my BF's family and his friends. I was never a very social person anyway, so it doesn't bother me too much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 I always wondered if I had a girlfriend, I would feel different about things. I'm sure it'd help with feeling alone a lot, but I bet it's not the healthiest reason to find one either. If only I had confidence in myself too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maneatingcow Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 This place needs some creepy vibes right about now - http://dangerousminds.net/comments/because_love_never_dies_put_your_loved_ones_ashes1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
McCandless Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 You're all awesome people so it's definitely problems with them rather than any of you that's causing this. I'm very lucky with my friends and will never take them for granted. We've got a great group and I hope this never changes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
McCandless Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 This place needs some creepy vibes right about now - http://dangerousminds.net/comments/because_love_never_dies_put_your_loved_ones_ashes1 Well this thread took a strange turn. THE_James_Champ 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 You're all awesome people so it's definitely problems with them rather than any of you that's causing this. I'm very lucky with my friends and will never take them for granted. We've got a great group and I hope this never changes. youre so nice mccandless Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soundofsilver Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Well this thread took a strange turn. hippielauryn, abovetheearth and maneatingcow 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
McCandless Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 youre so nice mccandless Right back at your Ashton! If anyone wants to carry on working down the list it would be appreciated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hippielauryn Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 This place needs some creepy vibes right about now - http://dangerousminds.net/comments/because_love_never_dies_put_your_loved_ones_ashes1 Woah! Very strange indeed, but whatever makes you happy, I guess. If anyone wants to carry on working down the list it would be appreciated. Too cute to not post again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maneatingcow Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 ...well shit. Since we've been talking about being lonely earlier. I just found out that my half-brother is getting married. Apparently he finally got the visa or whatever else was needed for his mail order bride. So far I know 3 people who have bought mail order brides. I guess more power to both parties. Hopefully, its a mutually beneficial arrangement. So I guess the moral of the story is that if your lonely, that's an option. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tarzioo_ Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 This place needs some creepy vibes right about now - http://dangerousminds.net/comments/because_love_never_dies_put_your_loved_ones_ashes1 Ahhhhh!!! i just read that article about it !!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 ...well shit. Since we've been talking about being lonely earlier. I just found out that my half-brother is getting married. Apparently he finally got the visa or whatever else was needed for his mail order bride. So far I know 3 people who have bought mail order brides. I guess more power to both parties. Hopefully, its a mutually beneficial arrangement. So I guess the moral of the story is that if your lonely, that's an option. Haha, that is kind of awesome- also weird and creepy. I may be lonely, but I'm not desperate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tarzioo_ Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 ...well shit. Since we've been talking about being lonely earlier. I just found out that my half-brother is getting married. Apparently he finally got the visa or whatever else was needed for his mail order bride. So far I know 3 people who have bought mail order brides. I guess more power to both parties. Hopefully, its a mutually beneficial arrangement. So I guess the moral of the story is that if your lonely, that's an option. I'm getting a mail order husband !!! But seriously, is that really a thing ? I've heard of it but never really believed it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maneatingcow Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Haha, that is kind of awesome- also weird and creepy. I may be lonely, but I'm not desperate. I try not to judge. Or think about it to much. I will say this, the only time I've seen my half-brother actually happy was when talking about his "girlfriend". I just hope that she is equally happy with the arrangement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tarzioo_ Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 I always wondered if I had a girlfriend, I would feel different about things. I'm sure it'd help with feeling alone a lot, but I bet it's not the healthiest reason to find one either. If only I had confidence in myself too. I've had relationships where I've felt more alone being with them than without so I don't feel like getting in a relationship can really fix this. I've met most of my friends through work. I feel that most people are open to making new friends, it just takes some time to break the ice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tarzioo_ Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 Eli where are you ?? Hello Eli. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tarzioo_ Posted April 28, 2015 Share Posted April 28, 2015 i bought cotton candy Oreos from Amazon which might have been my dumbest/best purchase from there ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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