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alright i'll make a serious confession...

it doesn't seem like that big of a deal nowadays but i feel so weird when i get to know new people (like at my new job) because i'm gay.. like i feel like i'm not being myself. I don't feel comfortable having to explain myself because like I said, it shouldn't be a big deal. But these dudes I work with ask me questions and make statements about how they're sure i get the women and "oh do you think that girl is sexy?" and idk. I'm sort of just playing along for now. It doesn't help that they all make fun of my boss (who is obviously gay) constantly. I just don't know when I'm going to get to the point where I have to say something about it and then have to worry about everyone joking me behind my back and people acting differently towards me. It's all just very blah.

I can't pretend to know how this feels but I'd imagine the longer it goes on the worse it will get for you. I feel like a lot of people who make "gay jokes" aren't as bigoted as they seem at first, they just don't realize how hurtful it actually is because they are cowardly saying it around straight people only (so they think). It seems you'd have the support of your boss regardless, and hopefully if you throw your situation out there soon they'll either change their hurtful comments, or it can solidify the notion that you need to work somewhere else. No one deserves to deal with something like that with the amount of hours we all spend at our jobs. Good luck to you.

Edit: if they know you are gay and they are still doing this, then they are scum, and you should stil confront them. Being uncomfortable with this or being talked about behind your back...neither seems like a healthy work environment.

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alright i'll make a serious confession...

 

it doesn't seem like that big of a deal nowadays but i feel so weird when i get to know new people (like at my new job) because i'm gay.. like i feel like i'm not being myself. I don't feel comfortable having to explain myself because like I said, it shouldn't be a big deal. But these dudes I work with ask me questions and make statements about how they're sure i get the women and "oh do you think that girl is sexy?" and idk. I'm sort of just playing along for now. It doesn't help that they all make fun of my boss (who is obviously gay) constantly. I just don't know when I'm going to get to the point where I have to say something about it and then have to worry about everyone joking me behind my back and people acting differently towards me. It's all just very blah.

 

 

Things like this always annoy me.  The fact that amongst people who are progressive minded and think of themselves as gay friendly seem to have an expectation that upon meeting someone whos gay the conversation should start as follows "Hi my name is ______, and just to preface our potential friendship I am in fact a homosexual."

 

As a whole it seems like your average person these days are becoming more tolerant of gay men, but only if they in fact are flaming homosexuals.  If you fit the TV Sitcom stereotype, it's ok. 

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personally being comfortable/open/proud with my sexuality has always been somewhat of a challenge for me. In the past i was more in favor of getting to know people before telling them or openly discussing it. who i fuck should be the least interesting thing about me, so hey get to know me and then we'll talk about that. But recently, like in the past year, i've met new people and i just casually mentioned things about girls or exes or whatever and they didn't flinch and the convo didn't turn to a focus on my sexuality. it's hard to tell who will make a stink about it and ask a bunch of questions, and who will accept it as the common thing it is and move on with our conversation about taco bell or what the fuck ever.

 

last night i went out in a button up shirt and a... tie on! i looked lesbian as hell. this is very very new to me. but i owned it. felt like i was pretty much saying "hey whaddup. i'm gay as shit. and i look fly. how's it goin."

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I googled provider boards also. I just got in the car for a 4 hour drive, let's keep this going. I'm learning so much

Next subject: felching. Ok whos done it, and immediately snowballed your partner? :P

Next weeks vc episode will be on gun fucking: LOADED and unloaded. Always use a condom for safety purposes.

Ok, now im just being vulgar... My apologies.

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personally being comfortable/open/proud with my sexuality has always been somewhat of a challenge for me. In the past i was more in favor of getting to know people before telling them or openly discussing it. who i fuck should be the least interesting thing about me, so hey get to know me and then we'll talk about that. But recently, like in the past year, i've met new people and i just casually mentioned things about girls or exes or whatever and they didn't flinch and the convo didn't turn to a focus on my sexuality. it's hard to tell who will make a stink about it and ask a bunch of questions, and who will accept it as the common thing it is and move on with our conversation about taco bell or what the fuck ever.

last night i went out in a button up shirt and a... tie on! i looked lesbian as hell. this is very very new to me. but i owned it. felt like i was pretty much saying "hey whaddup. i'm gay as shit. and i look fly. how's it goin."

Im starting to really enjoy your little quips.

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I definitely think there is a double standard though with a woman being gay and a man being gay.  I'm not trying to say that you have it easy, please don't take it as that.  I'm just trying to make clear my previous statements are directly relating to Gay Men.

 

It's as though progressive thinking heterosexual men still "need" to know if someone they are hanging out with is gay, so as to keep an eye on things.  It goes back to my favorite comment from "gay friendly" men, "I'm cool with someone being gay, as long as they don't try and hit on me."  That comment there is why I think heterosexual men feel the "need" to know if someone they are hanging out with is gay.

 

IMO it all comes down to heterosexual men feeling that being around a gay man puts their sexuality into question.  Even progressives who logically have no issue with homosexuality feel that deep down.

 

 

 

Lesbians, meh we've all watched so many of those videos it's become commonplace.  And it doesn't threaten male sexuality.

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If porn taught me anything it's that all women are bi so they embrace lesbians.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In reality point taken.  I've always dealt with things from the male perspective on this topic.  And to be completely honest I've never really tried to look at things from the female side of things.  I've always just assumed women weren't as big of douche's as men and just left it as that.

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i have a buddy who likes to make first impressions with women by talking about his "ass flushing"(high colonic) episodes or how his mastery of cunnilingus skills have given him a rep on provider boards. 

 

You know what, send him my way next time I'm drunk. I'm sure I'll be quite entertained.

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One time I was pooping at school, and someone came in checking to see if there was anyone in my stall. Except unlike any normal person who would look for feet, this tall ass hat looked OVER the stall, and there I was just half push, vulnerable, and exposed. I hated it so much.

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however i do agree there is a double standard. the most i have to worry about is derogatory name/comments towards me. gay men have a hell of a lot more problems.

 

EDIT: 99 problems but a vag ain't one

 

This discussion pretty much came at the right time

 

Last night I was hanging out in my dorm with a few friends trying to make plans to go out and such. People were coming and going from parties, occasionally joining us in conversation. At one point while we were talking, someone brought up that a friend of ours (gay male) was in his room hooking up with someone he had been seeing. It was just a small passing comment, and this other dude we didnt know (who apparently knew the person our friend was with) came out of nowhere and began to rant about how "sick and disgusting" that was, and that he couldn't fathom being friends with this individual anymore because of his life choices.

 

Just then, another one of my friends confronts him by introducing herself with "Hello, I'm a queer feminist! What do you think of me?"

and this guy just goes like "Well, I dont really care that you like chicks cause when two girls are gettin it on that shit is pretty hot"

 

People suck.

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Oh am I late to poop talk?

Never too late.

My worst school poop moment was when there were a couple football players in the bathroom when I was dropping a deuce, and they started getting paper towels wet and throwing them over the stall at me. They must have used all the paper towels in the bathroom because it lasted like 10 minutes and there was literally nothing I could do.

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