philviral Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 I'm kinda like you Madie, had a long relationship right after high school, got married right after college. Didn't really have much dating practice and after it ended I wasn't sure how to go forward. Just started dating again this year. My favourite type of date is a walking date. I like walking in the park, or stroll around downtown. Going for a drink makes for another easy date. Something where neither of you are too preoccupied to talk and get to know each other. Dinner and a movie is actually a terrible first date. I'd save it for third or later. Well, the movie at least, dinner is cool once you're past introductions and stuff. For example this one girl I saw, we walked around for a few hours, took a break on a park bench where we talked more, and then decided to grab some food. One piece of advice I was given that I found very helpful: don't think of it as a date, think of it as going out for a fun time with a new friend. And remember that even if nothing comes of it you will have had an enjoyable time (hopefully) and got some dating practice. As for what to ask? Just ask for more detail about something he says that catches your interest. Just be casual and shoot the shit. *Don't* do what I call the "marriage interview" where you ask all the same kind of questions you'd see on a dating site (do you want kids? do you own a home? what do you do for work? etc). That just makes for a boring date. A few of those questions would be ok to get a bit of info out of him if you know nothing but don't stay on that line of questioning for very long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 I was with a girl for 8 years, got married, got divorced. One thing I'm pretty good at is being a gentleman. I don't recommend alcohol on first dates though, that can lead to unwanted places. I also think dinner isn't good either because there isn't enough talking while eating, and some people can get uncomfortable. I'm going on a first date with a pretty gal tonight. First im gonna bring her to get ice cream, then we're gonna go walk around the river. That way we can talk and get to know one another. She's from out of town so I have a lot of options. Maybe you two could grab coffee, or gelato or something. Bowling is always a lot of fun too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thebiglebowski Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 I think the majority of you guys overthink your dates. You act like the goal is to get non-stop conversation from start to finish. The biggest part of whether a girl wants a second date -- whether she is physically attracted to you. Not how much of her life story you get out to her. Every single thing mentioned is fine -- movies, walking, drinks, dinner, bowling. Be normal and confident. That's all you have to do. Whether you choose bowling or a movie doesn't matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
controlthebleeding Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 i don't have the pulchritude to even get dates so i go by what others have done. bowling, shooting range, walking, skating, pool. coffee, ice cream, and maybe a 9 holes of disc golf if there's a nice course. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevin848 Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Wow, none of you dudes really know anything about dating or first dates, huh? Ask him back to your place to cuddle. Done. "Wanna come over and cuddle? lol " Just like that! nobodybrokeurheart 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbruise Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 Wow, none of you dudes really know anything about dating or first dates, huh? Ask him back to your place to cuddle. Done. "Wanna come over and cuddle? lol " Just like that! This, and tell your girlfriends this is the only way to date. ronniegwilliams and hobohunter48 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcm1610 Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 I'm telling you, if you can enjoy yourself at a strip club with him, you'll get married. I'm only about 5% joking on this one. The other 95% means it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbruise Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 MAN ADVICE: GET DRUNK AND FUCK bathroommonkey and yocaseycasey 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Wow, none of you dudes really know anything about dating or first dates, huh? Ask him back to your place to cuddle. Done. "Wanna come over and cuddle? lol " Just like that! This also Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rochambo Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 I say I need help because I was in a five year relationship straight out of high school, I was in a five year relationship Straight Outta Compton nobodybrokeurheart 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluedeni Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Have to agree with Scott, mini golf is always a great a great first date. If things go well you can do dinner or whatvever. If things go bad at least you got to play mini golf. Win-win in my book. rocketcat and scottheisel 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Shoot guns. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rudeboydh Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 When I clicked on this topic, I thought it was going to be a mens advice thread... like you know... how to check for prostate cancer, and what to do if it hurts when you pee. That kinda stuff. Anyways... My fiance and I met at a ska show and ate at Waffle house later. I guess that was our first date, and it couldn't have been better. Nothing says romance like ska and waffles. EDIT: I meant testicular cancer, not prostate cancer... it'd kinda be awkward doing self-check for prostate cancer. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Do a gun battle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
controlthebleeding Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Shoot guns. i actually know many people who have gone on dates to shoot guns. it's quite fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
natealcatraz Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Go to LA. Play penis game at that Angels Knoll like in (500) Days of Summer. Go digging at Amoeba. Go back home to listen to what you've bought (and maybe watch if you bought movies). Fall asleep on the couch together because you played some sleepy music. Wake up and share some breakfast. Man I really need to take the leap soon......... You can also go laser tagging. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
icecream Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Make sure when he gets in the car you have concubine by converge at the absolute highest level. i'm also in pretty much in the exact same situation i've just became very excellent at becoming a hermit. This is a prime example of me, don't do this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zacaroo21 Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 I took a gal out a week ago for pizza. She talked the entire time without taking a breath and not once asked me a question. Bitch complained more than anything. My advice to you in don't do that shit... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 So how did the date go? I had my first date with a gal tonight and I'm so smitten its ridiculous. So side question- girl is only in town for a month and we both really dig each other; do I pursue in hopes of an awesome month and who knows, or just nip it out now so nobody is hurt later? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Derek™ Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Will she eventually be returning? And if not, is it even in the realm of possible that you'll be living within proximity of one another in the future? If the answer to both questions is no, I'd advise to sever it early. But if there's a possibility - even a slim one - that things could get serious and escalate into something great... go for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 okay so thank you to everyone that suggested laser tag. also thank you to everyone else who offered good advice, I knew I stuck around here for a reason. I fucking love laser tag so that’s what I went with. we got pizza afterward then walked in this alley between the river and the old industrial plant. sat by the river... sat in his car and listened to music. it's my birthday today, so at midnight he pulled out this mix tape he made me, and actual mix tape? I didn’t know people still made those but that was probably the best thing he could have done, after that I was like damn, I actually like him. it was kind of wonderful. he texted me when I got home and said “can I see you again, asap”... I think it was a success! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 So how did the date go? I had my first date with a gal tonight and I'm so smitten its ridiculous. So side question- girl is only in town for a month and we both really dig each other; do I pursue in hopes of an awesome month and who knows, or just nip it out now so nobody is hurt later? go for it, if it's meant to be you two will find a way to work it out. I think the worst question you can walk around with on your shoulders is 'what if?' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Madie, that date sounds so rad. Laser tag, seriously? That's so cool. As far as out of town chick goes, we met at a bar, where neither of us wanted to go that night, but both of us got drug out to. She's going to school for writing, as am I. We both agreed that we're just not going to just pretend the distance thing doesn't exist yet, which as a whole could end up really kicking me in the as. But you're right, I never want to think 'what if' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottheisel Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Mix tapes are what won me my now-fiancee (and soon to be wife). NEVER underestimate the power of a mix tape. rudeboydh 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronniegwilliams Posted July 20, 2012 Share Posted July 20, 2012 Mix tapes are what won me my now-fiancee (and soon to be wife). NEVER underestimate the power of a mix tape. I still have a pack of like 3 blank cassettes waiting to be made into mix tapes for that special someone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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