The Butcha Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 I'm not a bad guy - but my penis is a bad, bad guy. Black Phillip, GreatGreenOne77, Dominic_ and 1 other 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 Ummmm you got messaged by a bot and fell into their trap. sorry dude but don't regret anything because you would have had to ultimately pay money for something. kjkenney 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deafening Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 Ummmm you got messaged by a bot My immediate first thought. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WAXXX Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 bots need loving too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abovetheearth Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 eeeevery Bot(t) needs some Bot(ty) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 half hour before she was supposed to come over tonight "super vague, but something just came up and i can't come. i'll explain later." at this point, she's probably just run out of her usual excuses and doesn't know what to hit me with. fucking dammit. i haven't even had to opportunity to invest this much time into someone in years, and she's just flaking away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelby Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 My immediate first thought. I've had that same exact message and you guys are right. That post is pretty embarrassing in hindsight I bet. DecayToDeath 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DecayToDeath Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 I've had that same exact message and you guys are right. That post is pretty embarrassing in hindsight I bet. If this was Reddit, it'd be on /r/BestOf. I feel kinda bad, but goddamn, that's hilarious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
parkinglot Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I've never used tinder but I took my friends phone once and asked every girl he had a chat going with "what is your favorite kind of lizard" and half of them thought it was something sexual and the other half never talked to him again. Papercup 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dominic_ Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I'm not a bad guy - but my penis is a bad, bad guy. Words of wisdom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cambionic Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Ummmm you got messaged by a bot and fell into their trap. sorry dude but don't regret anything because you would have had to ultimately pay money for something. This is actually a major relief. I'm kinda glad I didn't do anything, hahahaha bots need loving too. I've had that same exact message and you guys are right. That post is pretty embarrassing in hindsight I bet. Not embarrassed at all. Mostly relieved that it's not real. Because if so, that's majorly fucked up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 If a girl immediately messages something sexual it's a bot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cambionic Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 If a girl immediately messages something sexual it's a bot. Not always. I met a girl who just wanted a hookup and within five minutes of talking with her she made it known. Tinder is weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 immediately, as in one of their first messages. The likelihood that anyone messages immediately with "hey boy whats your # lets go to the rodeo" as their first message and isn't a bot is slim. 5 minutes of talking is definitely fast enough to determine whether or not someone is real at which point, let the use cases be known! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 "Hey this might sound a little forward, but wanna sext? What's your number?" Is as a bot message I got a lot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 So I've been hanging a lot with someone who is four years older than I, and we've been pretty close and stuff. We really bond over only one thing - and that is that we're both vegan. I think we've hung out in person 5 or 6 times in the past two weeks, and well it's great except we often sit in silence when we are hanging out. I don't usually have a problem getting people to laugh or talk or open up but for some reason I can't connect with her like that in person. When I say "open up" - I don't mean like tell me things. I know a lot about her life and a lot about her in general, what she likes, doesn't like, all of her horrible exs - I mean if we were both sitting together the conversation dies quickly. What am I supposed to do in this situation? Try and find a different way to connect? I think, from the humor part of things, that she doesn't like corny humor / puns at all and thats my go to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 or maybe I'm reeeeallly nervous around her ( I am ) and am not being myself and as a result falling flat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tardcore Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 So I've been hanging a lot with someone who is four years older than I, and we've been pretty close and stuff. We really bond over only one thing - and that is that we're both vegan. I think we've hung out in person 5 or 6 times in the past two weeks, and well it's great except we often sit in silence when we are hanging out. I don't usually have a problem getting people to laugh or talk or open up but for some reason I can't connect with her like that in person. When I say "open up" - I don't mean like tell me things. I know a lot about her life and a lot about her in general, what she likes, doesn't like, all of her horrible exs - I mean if we were both sitting together the conversation dies quickly. What am I supposed to do in this situation? Try and find a different way to connect? I think, from the humor part of things, that she doesn't like corny humor / puns at all and thats my go to. Some people don't have a problem sitting in silence. Maybe instead of figuring out how to get her to talk, you need to figure out how to not-talk. It's kind of interesting that you mention the smallish age difference. is that significant to you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GreatGreenOne77 Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Lol I'm 16 Would love to hear others' though. Death From Above 1979's You're a Woman, I'm a Machine makes me want to fuck and dance, but not sure which one first... or both at the same time... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Some people don't have a problem sitting in silence. Maybe instead of figuring out how to get her to talk, you need to figure out how to not-talk. It's kind of interesting that you mention the smallish age difference. is that significant to you? I'm 24, and I've never ever been anything with anyone who was younger than I. Like 99% of girls I've talked to as such have been 2 years younger. It terrified me at first because I built up this idea that she was going to judge me for things I did or think down on me or that she was just going to be different since she was older than me. I know this is insane and I don't think I do it anymore at all, as I don't really think about her age much, but maybe I do and maybe that is why I mentioned it. We are at different places in our lives though - as a few months ago she got out of a relationship with someone who she was going to marry and she has said she isn't rushing anything because she's not ready (but then she came over later that night and we rushed)... edit: i realized I didn't acknowledge the other part of what you said. I think I do need to learn how to not-talk. Like that pulp fiction scene. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GreatGreenOne77 Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 edit: i realized I didn't acknowledge the other part of what you said. I think I do need to learn how to not-talk. Like that pulp fiction scene. It's not easy to have the comfortable silence with just anyone. I had a friend that passed away some years back, and he was the only person I could ever share a comfortable silence with. Sometimes we would sit for 45 minutes or so just gathering our thoughts or whatever, and I've never been able to do that with anyone since. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
llamaface Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 There's only so much two people can talk about. Like others have said, try to enjoy the silence even though it's not the easiest thing. If you're looking for more conversation then find something to go do or go see that would spark something. Side note, how can someone not be into puns and corny jokes? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Team Avatar Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 that's what I always thought but she doesn't even roll her eyes! and I know they are eye rolling worthy. I'll let y'all know how it progresses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deafening Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 Side note, how can someone not be into puns and corny jokes? Give me fart jokes all day, but leave your puns at the door. There is a world of difference between comfortable silence and silence because two people don't connect. The fact that you have to ask makes me wonder if your situation leans towards the latter. Some people are naturally quiet. Some people take longer to loosen up. Some people don't like puns. They're not that great, guys. Don't force it. Let her be her, and give her time. Learn to enjoy the silence. If this is how she is now, even after she 'opens up' she will still probably sway towards the quiet side. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bladewillisisdead Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 Always save the bad puns until you know a person. I once found out that a girl couldn't stand them because her ex used to make them all the time. Except he thought they were the height of comedy, took them seriously, and would get MAD when she didn't laugh at his "genius" Intentionally bad puns can be fun, but don't take yourself seriously. And yeah, try to figure out what type of silence it is. Being able to say nothing to a potential partner is very important, but it could also be a "we're not connecting" silence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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