Guest Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 need help. soooo, ya’ll were right. Went out with him last weekend with a bunch of friends from high school and he wouldn’t even let me leave his side. and then yesterday he saw some things on my instagram and texted me, accusing me of doing shady things. I can tell he’s getting more possessive over me. also my dad is really sick right now, might have to have open heart surgery, and he was really insensitive when I told him about it - pretty much ignored it.what do you guys appreciate most? should I be honest and say I’m not into him anymore, or do I make up something to spare his feelings.usually I just do the bastard thing and ignore the person, but I would like to not be an asshole this time around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuzzersonKillwell Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Tell him the truth as politely as you can. He may not correct the behavior for the next gal, but he deserves the chance to try. On a related note, I assume this means we get to make fun of him together now right? I've been saving my best quips for this moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Wow. That's definitely a red flag there. If I were you I'd just tell him you don't think things are working out between the two of you. If you want, or if he asks, you could cite the instagram ordeal and the possessiveness. He seems kind of self centered based on his reaction (or lack thereof) to your father, so he probably will try to drag it out and make it about him by asking what he could've possibly done wrong. Also, most importantly, I hope your father gets better. =( If surgery ends up happening, I hope he has a speedy recovery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emo Revival Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Tell him the truth as politely as you can. He may not correct the behavior for the next gal, but he deserves the chance to try. On a related note, I assume this means we get to make fun of him together now right? I've been saving my best quips for this moment. I tend to agree with this. The only caveat I would put in there is that it also depends on your feelings of him Madie. If you think he'd use this to grow as a person than absolutely explain why and everything, but if you think it'll fall on deaf ears than fuck him he dosent deserve the courtesy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbruise Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Everybody is giving really nice advice, and if they haven't already, I'm sure I would have to... Just tell him to fuck off. onlettingjoe 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Everybody is giving really nice advice, and if they haven't already, I'm sure I would have to... Just tell him to fuck off. My response was meant to have a little bitchiness to it, haha. But I wouldn't go overboard in the event that he can become super crazy stalkerish or leechy. I always handle situations under the guise of "you don't know what they're capable of," which I understand might be crazy and slightly morbid, but one can never be too careful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sinisterkidd Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Tell him you're a strong independent woman and you dont need no man holding you down. Or just tell him he's a dick and you need your freedom. Also I hope your dad is ok. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 man I didn't realize how hard it was for me to be honest with someone about this stuff. I keep writing texts and deleting them. should I do this over the phone? fucking A. on a lighter note, jefferson will appreciate this I could write a very very long post about all of the things I ignored for the sake of trying something new, but I feel bad, I don’t want to totally fuck the guy over. so here are some highlights:he had one of his own headshots framed and sitting in his kitchen, only time i ever saw him get mad was when he lost one of his handmade bracelets (it was the one with earth colors) I remember he kept freaking out saying earth colors over and over again.and he couldn’t get it up. He said he was thinking about it too much, I’ve never experienced that before... can men really psych themselves out like that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sinisterkidd Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 I wouldnt know about getting psyched out, but sounds like he could of got it up if he just looked in a mirror billya, scottheisel, nobodybrokeurheart and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 and he couldn’t get it up. He said he was thinking about it too much, I’ve never experienced that before... can men really psych themselves out like that? I believe so. When I started dating my dude I was his first in over a year so he was really nervous which would cause situations like that from time to time. It also didn't help that one of his exes years ago told him that he got her pregnant, but didn't keep it. =\ Still not sure if she was telling the truth, but it got to him anyway. Before dating him I had never heard of guys psyching themselves out to the point of not being able to ~perform. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 just wrote a lot, all he says is ‘we need to talk about this is person’. uh oh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 If I were in your situation I would just reply with a "no thanks." He's just continuing to tell you what to do by replying with a statement like that. I'm sure if you wanted to see him again to tell him in person, you would've. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abovetheearth Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 i couldnt even imagine not getting it up. i get partial bones just thinking about a butt cheek. any butt cheek. and when i see goodies and touch things...look out, i just unzipped my pants. without using my hands. onlettingjoe 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marc32137 Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 What a douche.. And sending good thoughts and prayers for your dad, Madie! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuzzersonKillwell Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 If I were in your situation I would just reply with a "no thanks." He's just continuing to tell you what to do by replying with a statement like that. I'm sure if you wanted to see him again to tell him in person, you would've. This is true. Unless you're trying to salvage this thing there is no need to continue further. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nobodybrokeurheart Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 I wouldnt know about getting psyched out, but sounds like he could of got it up if he just looked in a mirror Zing!! Also, no, you do not need to talk about this in person. You have decided it's over, so it's over. And I hope dad's ok. And holy fuck I hope he saw the weird shit I said to you on Instagram which caused his suspicions!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 I wouldnt know about getting psyched out, but sounds like he could of got it up if he just looked in a mirrorWinner!Also pulling for your pops. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 thanks guys. making me feel all warm and fuzzy and stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottheisel Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Yeah, Madie, fuck this guy (well, not literally). You told him it was over. He needs to accept it. Absolutely do not meet this jabroni in person, because if you thought he was being possessive before, just imagine how bad he'd be if you saw him now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3arl Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 As a kind-of clingy guy myself, this dude seems pretty excessive Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
circuit bored records Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 As a kind-of clingy guy myself, this dude seems pretty excessive Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nick059 Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Yeah, Madie, fuck this guy (well, not literally). You told him it was over. He needs to accept it. Absolutely do not meet this jabroni in person, because if you thought he was being possessive before, just imagine how bad he'd be if you saw him now. Perfect use of jabroni. Love that word. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
futures Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Jabroni has been thrown around quite a bit around these parts out of late. Me gusta. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roadmonkey Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 Yeah, Madie, fuck this guy (well, not literally). You told him it was over. He needs to accept it. Absolutely do not meet this jabroni in person, because if you thought he was being possessive before, just imagine how bad he'd be if you saw him now. Agreed!!! This Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 2, 2013 Share Posted May 2, 2013 i came in to this too late. i honestly would have suggested saying "hey- unless you can cool your jets on the possessiveness, this isn't gonna work" but if you've just lost all interest, then you're probably doing the right thing by ending it all together. i wish more girls would have been open with me about what i was doing wrong. having to figure it out myself suckssssss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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